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*ove Struck with an ex
writes:I have been broken up from my ex for 3 yrs in Oct. I am still madly in love w/ him and I don't know if he is w/ me. We only dated 5 mths but we lived together and broke up really badly. It was just sort of one phone call and me saying I'm done and that's that. We never argued or anything and I fell madly in love with him. We occasionally talked but never as friends always just about me wanting to get back with him. Recently I was moving to Maryland and we hung out so we could say our good byes and he told me he still loved me. Later that night we went to the beach and he jumped in the water at 4 AM. He wanted me too but of course I have common sense and didn't. I wish I would have because later he told me I wasn't for him because I wasn't spontaneous like him and we just weren't right for each other. We recently saw each other...having been a month since he told me he loved me... and we talked through text and ended up having sex that night. He told me we could only do it 1 x because then after that you develop feelings. I am so confused. Should I try and get him back or is he just playing games with me?? I still love him for some reason and I am at the point where I don't know whether I am stupid for still wondering or if there is hope...?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2007): It sounds to me, like you really crushed the guy. More than once, from his prospective. First - You broke it off over the phone, low blow. Second - He was throwing himself at you at the beach, and you didn't take the bait. Third - He SPELLED his feelings out for you, when he said he didn't want to have sex with you again, because feelings would be involved.You have to remember that men guard their TRUE feelings. They aren't as straight forward about their feelings or emotions as we are. He told you how he felt without saying it. Girl, it's obvious the boy is still in love with you, or something! Why would he still be at your Beck and Call? What happened for you to call him and just end it so abruptly? Is it worth salvaging? Will it last THIS time? Are you going to CRUSH him again? You have to know he is thinking all of these same things, if he is truly in love with you like it sounds.
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