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anonymous
writes:I'm 32 and have been with my boyfriend [he's 36] for 5 months. He has 2 children from a previous relationship. I have found out recently I am pregnant, it is my first child. I have always lived a very independant life but since meeting him, I have curbed my social life as he had issues with my friends. As the months went on he has become more financially dependant on me and the final straw was I had been working nights. I got up to find his sister had her cell phone charging and her son playing an Xbox. I felt a bit miffed and pulled my boyfriend aside. I told him that I felt a bit taken for granted and would he ask me first. He left in a huff and didn't speak to me for a day. He has weekly huffs that end up the same way. Now a child is involved my priorities have changed and I have decided to end the relationship. He sends me awful texts. Should I try again for the sake of the baby??
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2007): sounds like hes mad at u and is not happy with the situation and is finding it all to much and is making him stressed and u leaving him is the iceing on the cake , sounds like he dose love u and neededs a kick up his back side! u sound like ur nackarded and getting cheesed off he needs to be the one helping u out wit money . dont be bullyied bye him talk to his family if ur not getting thought 2 him and try work it out gud luck.
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reader, aye  +, writes (3 August 2007):
 no if u dont feel it dont do it also your child will learn that if u dont like someone stay with just like mommy
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2007): no no no! because what will this be teaching your child? that its ok to be treated like this??? You sound like a really good parent to really want to make this work for your child but if he's doing this and you want to leave him because, you shouldn't that wont be teaching your child anything, thats what my sisters teacher told my mum when she was with my dad. I hope this helps xxx
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reader, skye +, writes (28 July 2007):
 Hello Anonymous,Firstly I want to say that I think you are a very brave. I really admire your decision to end this relationship and get your life back on track for you and your baby. This man does not sound a healthy influence.Now you are expecting this baby (many congratulations!), your priorities have to change as you have stated; and you cant have your partner going into huffs and generally behaving like a child himself. He should be helping you provide for your child together, not becoming dependant upon you and certainly not allowing his sister snd her son to "move in". How dare he send you nasty text messages? You are not his property! You are allowed friends and a social life. He should be listening to your concerns and helping you alieviate them. I believe you are doing the right thing by ending this relationship. You will always be connected to this man through your child togerther, so I would suggest you agree upon visitation to your baby as soon as possible. You are a sensible woman and Im sure you do not want your child to be caught up in a tug of war between its parents. However, if the texts he is sending you are at all abusive or threatening and you do not believe him a fit person to be around your baby; then you need to keep these messages and take them to the police. You may need to press charges in order to keep him out of your and your childs life. I hope this is not the case though, and you will be able to agree access. I think you have made a brave decision and one that is right for you. Please stick to it.Good luck, Skye
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2007): It sounds like your BF is an emotionally abusive man. You challenged him and he stormed off. It does sound like you are being taken advantage of. I would trust you gut on this one.If you feel he would be irresponsible and unsupportive, don't let him rob from what should be a happy time in your life. Tell him your fears, concerns and what you expect from him. Lay down some ground rules. He needs to realize that in a relationship, especially living together, it is no longer ME ME ME-he has to get into WE WE WE. What would we want, what would we need, what would be best for us.If he can't listen to you, if he isn't willing to reform, if he can't compromise-kick him out.Focus on you and the baby. It may just be you are the only loving, reliable parent your baby will have in her life for sometime.Best Wishes.*hugs*
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