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writes:My boyfriend and I split up almost 2 weeks ago, after a two year relationship. He's already over me, and has moved on with his life, while I seem to cant let it go. It's eating me on the inside, and I hurt so badly, I know I'm holding onto air, but my heart is still trying. He's been dating someone else he told his coworker (apparently he cant stop talking about her), but denies it to me. How can someone just forget two years of their life? He even told my mom he was going to marry me, but told me the day we broke up, that he was trying to break us up for a year. I don't know what to believe, and all I feel is hurt and pain. How do I let this go?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2007): Everything is going to be alright. Your trials come to make you strong. There is no way he forgot about the 2yrs. the two of you shared as a couple. I know right now you want immediate answers and they are slow to come, i know you want the pain to go away and the comfort seems so far off, but trust and believe that God never closes one door without opening another.. Let me ask you this- you have no urge to be in the comfort of another man right?? You would much rather be with the man you love right?? well why dont you think you deserve a man that thinks, feels and wants the same as you?? A break up doesnt suppose to nessasarily mean it is completely over, so you had no intentions on replacing him.. Well men do not think as women. But from what it seems he doesnt deserve you..There is someone out there for you, but you have to heal and be patient-Yes i know u dont wanna here that..Take notice, your heart did not one time stop beating after the break up did it?? Did your breathing completely stop? Did your head fall off? your throat close??? NO-NO-NO!! Because life goes on, you live and you learn.. You definetly do not give up on yourself!!! You get up, take a shower, get out of the house...Pamper yourself, go visit friends and family- keep busy-socialize and keep your head up.. do not ask about him and 4 the time being stay away from people ,places and things that will talk about him, remind you of him and you may run in2 him.. its for your own good and your healing process. It is not gonna be easy, but this too shall pass and you will feel alot better with each passing day, i promise you that..
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2007): hi I am 18 years old! well me and my ex just broke up last May 26, 2007 with a 2 years and 3 months relationship.... anyway in your situation, I was the one who got bored... and been trying to find ways to break up for a few months. I didn't want to break up cause I know i will get devastated cause I got used to be with him. I will only miss his presence not his love. I know that's so selfish cause in our relationship, I was already moving on while we're still together. Your ex did the same thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2007): hi
boys do that to forget or think less about it. a close friend of mine who has been very hurt by a breakup told me he has been seeing other girls (but that it was not healing). so seeing someone does not mean necessarily that he moved on. it may just help me convincing himself he took the right decision. so do not give too much consideration for this other girl. i do not intend to give you false hope but i mean to say that do not read too much in this new relationship with respect to yours.
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reader, Uncle Trev  +, writes (28 July 2007):
If he has been trying to stop your relationship for the past year then he has had a year to move on ahead of you. You have only had two weeks so what might seem very fast to you is not that fast to him. It seems strange him telling your mother that he intended to marry you - especially if it had been in the second year of your relationship with him.The best thing that you can do is draw a line in the sand so to say and move forward. Get back out there and take a firm hold of your life once again.As for the hurt and the pain time will heal and the faster you move things on the further you will get away from this hurt and pain you presently feel.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2007): You really need to focus on something other than this boyfriend, I know you are hurting, but thinking and wondering about him and his new girlfriend is just playing like a worn out record in your mind, so you need to get your mind on something else as often as you can.How can he forget a two year relationship and just move on? He hasn't forgotten it, he is young and so are you and you are too young to let this be your last relationship, it was your first, not your last...most relationships like yours if they result in marriage, result in divorce a few years later as you both will be very different people in 5 years, 7 and 10 years down the road...You have some maturing to do and you need to spend some young adult years being single and pursuing your own goals, so that you will be happy and content when you have choosen the right partner to share your life with and he will have chosen you wisely as well.I know it hurts now, but time will pass and you will be on to new things, just let him go....it does not mean that you are not lovable, wonderful young woman, you are, it was just not meant to be, it is not the right time for either of you to settle down...someday, you will with someone who will be perfect for you.
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