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writes:Does anyone have experience with free cuddle buddy websites or know anyone who has used one? I may sign up for one and would like to hear other people's experiences with it because I'm not ready for another relationship, but I do miss being cuddles in a platonic way, as much as anything else. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2018): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (4 March 2018):
 I am sure there must be a forum or two out there which caters for this sort of "therapy". As you say you have already done research into this, perhaps you need to do a little more and find such a forum? You would be better posting your question on there as you would be much more likely to find someone with experience of this type than on a general forum.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2018): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAlso, I haven't just read the hype on the website. I've done research into the benefits of cuddling and I don't have any friends like that.It's "weird and creepy" to cuddle a new friend who wants the same, but not to go out and have sex with strangers or new friends?Thanks for the response, but one or two replies of experience are better than ten of warnings and none of experience. I need cuddles as part of my healing process, don't have anyone to give them, so I'm looking to build a friendship with someone who also wants them for a similar reason.There's nothing wrong with that, which is why I solely asked for experiences.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2018): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThere's is such a thing as cuddle therapy. Not only that, but this is part of healing. It's also a free website and I've already explained some of the safety precautions I'd take.I need to be cuddled. It's something I miss, just like some people find a FWB or hookups to deal with their sex drive, but cuddling is so strange?I'm sorry for coming across as rude, but it's because it's not a question of "should I try it"?, like whoever wrote the title; it's "who has experience or knows anyone who does?" I haven't got any experiences, just warnings because it's not the norm.Cuddles help me relax, calm down, feel safe, etc. I'd like to build a friendship with someone where cuddling platonically is a part of that. It shouldn't be considered so weird on a site like this, as lots of single people (in particular) crave platonic cuddles when they aren't looking to date again yet.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (4 March 2018):
I can't imagine you will get many (if any) replies from people with actual experience of what you are thinking of trying. After all, it is not something exactly main stream. (I suspect most people will consider it a bit weird and a bit creepy.) Most people choose to cuddle with people they are already close to, not go out looking specifically for someone to cuddle with. This seems to be the wrong way round.
You are dismissive of any other options suggested to the point of rudeness, so I take that to mean that you are solely interested in this one thing. It sounds like you have read the hype on the website and have decided it fits what you feel you need. Please remember these websites will say whatever they feel will draw in members. The people writing the blurb will know how to push the right buttons on people who may feel in need of their "services".
In your shoes, I would be concentrating on healing from whatever hurt you have suffered in past relationships and, perhaps, making new friends so that you do not feel the need to reach out to strangers for physical comfort. If you ARE determined to go this route, then please exercise the same safety precautions as you would with internet dating. While there are probably some very genuine and caring people on this website, by the law of averages there will also be some creeps who will use it as a means to access vulnerable needy people. Stay safe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2018): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo, I don't have family or friends to cuddle with, I'd never do it when home alone (nor would I visit their place) and I'd build a friendship with them first, with the intention of it becoming a friend I can cuddle with, without it needing to be romantic or sexual.
Cuddling increases oxytocin levels, which is a 'bonding' hormone. It can help to reduce blood pressure, which in turn reduces the risk of heart disease, but it can also help to reduce stress and anxiety. You can't get that from volunteering.
Quite frankly, neither of you expressed anything helpful, as I asked for experience with it. Thanks anyway, I guess.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2018): That just sounds dangerous! I mean, someone could claim they just want to cuddle, but then they could turn on you and try to get sexual anyway. Most guys say cuddling turns them on and they inevitably try to grope. Why not volunteer at the Humane Society or similar? You can walk, bathe, and love on dogs and cats and no one will try anything.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (2 March 2018):
 Why on earth would you want to cuddle a stranger? Would that not be awkward and strange? Have you know family or friends you could cuddle with?
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