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writes:Hey I'm 14 and I have been told that I'm mature for my age I guess I am. A have practicly been taking care of myself and my brother and sister for two years now, and to get to my point, boys my age are stupid so my bf is 18 we know the risks of being together and talked about it before we even started dating on how carefull we need to be. I love him with all my heart and he gave me a promise ring, should I be flattered that he loves me and except it or be worried that he doesn't know what he is getting his self into. I told him that he shouldn't give it to me unless he knows that he needs to have a good solid plan for the future he says he knows and he has everything figured out, he has a house in line when his grandma kicks it and he is gonna go to trade school next year. Should I sit back and trust him with every thing I know or be concerned that he is in over his head? Reply to this Question
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reader, i_love_J +, writes (19 February 2009):
i_love_J is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you so much for the advice. The sex part however we are not going to wait until I'm 16 or 18 we would wait until we get married if we get married and the ring is an ''i-promise-to-marry-you-someday'' ring lol thank you again for the advice
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (19 February 2009):
 Hi there,
I think you need to discuss what promise he's making you with his ring. I had a boyfriend who gave me a promise ring years ago, and I kind of felt the same way you did. So I asked him to clarify what his promise was... he said that the ring meant that he would always care about me and be there. That was a promise that I didn't mind him making (and even though we're broken up now, he's held up his end of the deal - we're still close friends).
If this is an engagement ring, or an "engaged to be engaged" ring, then I think that you're right in being concerned. You haven't said how long this relationship is, but I assure it's pretty fresh. I would tell him to hold on to that ring until you both have a more solid plan for the future before you start making promises that will be difficult to keep!
I won't give you the speech about the age difference. I don't think it's too bad, but just know that if you're having sex, be safe and be careful because should anything go wrong, it's his ass in jail! So, just be careful.
Anyhow, good luck, sweetness!!
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