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male
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41-50,
*pd
writes:2 years ago i started playing a game, Lieange.Well i started it to stay away from my bad habbits, gambling, going to casinos and stuff like that. I just felt that i need to replace that "hobby" with another. Im not the kind of guy to look for girls over the net and such, but yea, it hit me. I started getting closer and closer to a girl from another country. So we started talking everyday, flirting, just relaxing. I will be 28 soon, she just turned 19. i didnt think much about her in the way that 19 y/o girls cant be really mature. I was amazed to see how he brain can think, i still cant believe it sometimes. I already knew how she looks, but i dont think that was the main reason of being attracted to her so much, i mean shes a normal girl not some super model type, for me she is perfect.All my life, i didnt care for any girl,didnt pay attention and didnt trust any, im more like a cold person in general. i get bored of people and things really fast. She kept me interested always. We are e-dating for more than 1 year, at one point we almost separated cos of me, i cant say that i didnt care for her but i did my best not to care too much! Before this Easter, hell broke loose and we almost split up cos i wasnt giving to much attention and was not so nice to her, etc. Things changed, i changed for the good. Thing is this, before the feelings were different, not so strong. now that feeling of "love" just exploded in me. I never saw her on a web cam, only pictures she sent me, we been talking in ventrillo and thats it, or ocasionally i call her on the phone. I told her about the web cam thing, she told me that she will get one but so far nothing, i feel like shes dodging and avoiding me, and in my head i just think that she might hide something from me.So the only possible thing that i see valid is that she isnt the girl in the pics. I talked to her about it, i even told her what i think, she said she will prove to me that im wrong. The problem here is me losing my trust in her, how can i trust someone whom ive never seen live or irl and who's so far away from me, just from words like "trust me"? she never asked me for something like money and such, shes a kind person and talks to many people, friends and nothing more, shes not selfish, silly, childish sometimes, sensual and so many things all rolled up in this one human being. The only reason here not to trust her is this web cam issue which i cant get off my mind, but i guess its only normal to want to see the girl/guy u love!!If someone can help me on this matter it would be like taking a 10 ton truck of my chest.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (15 June 2010):
 She's unsure about you too. Online relationships should go slower than in-person one because of the identity thing. She's from a different country! Give it time. Your mistreatment of her might be making her hesitant too.
You need to learn more about relationships in general.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (15 June 2010):
 "The problem here is me losing my trust in her, how can i trust someone whom ive never seen live or irl and who's so far away from me, just from words like "trust me"?"
How can you truly love someone when you've only seen a snippet of who they really are (or aren't) is more the question...
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