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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years And 2 months... In the time that we've been together we've had 3 major arguments that almost led to us breaking up. I love him so much and I've been so faithful to him. I've talked to him about it but it's like it goes in one ear and out the other. I'm really getting tired of talking to him about it. I already told him that the next time I find out about it.... We are over!!!! I'm so weak when it comes to him! I wanna know should I throw away the two years that we've gone through and move on???I really need some expert advice... Thank you!!!
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (1 April 2010):
 Hey Tish, Laura thinks "it" means a thorn not faithfulness. I wonder what the poster thinks "it" means?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (1 April 2010):
 Why stay in an unhappy relationship?
If he cannot remove that 'thorn' in your side , it means that he does not love you enough. You are not on his priority list.
A man who truly loves you will do whatever you want from him.
You have already issued him repeated warnings and that is the last straw. You had enough.
You need to disappear from his world for a while to let him ponder about his actions. If you stay on , nothing will changed as he feels that you are only nagging him.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (1 April 2010):
 The key word here might be "faithful." She's faithful to him, he does not return the favor.
I wouldn't look at it as throwing away 2 years of your life. I would look at walking away from him as saving 50 years of misery and arguments and building resentment and mistrust and increasing weakness and unhappiness on your part.
Extract the good from the 2 years--you've learned a lot, you've seen what an unfaithful man says and does, so the next guy won't be able to fool you with pretty words that don't match his deeds. You've learned what it's like to be in a relationship that is lopsided--you give and give, he takes and takes and you are the one who winds up unhappy and miserable.
You've learned that talking to him over and over again does nothing to change his behavior. He's either a faithful man or he is not; you don't have any control over him. Next time, you'll choose better, because you learned so much in this 2 years. That means the next 50 will find you in a happier, healthier relationship with a guy who isn't a cheat.
Good luck.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (1 April 2010):
Okay Laura, maybe YOU can tell me what "it" is?
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (1 April 2010):
If he does not show his respect for you and ignores your wishes, there is no future for you in this relationship.
You could walk away and see if he values and appreciates you by giving it up.
If he cannot , you need to move on.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (1 April 2010):
"I've talked to him about it but it's like it goes in one ear and out the other."
What's the "it" you are talking about?
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