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writes:Hi aunts. Am after a perspective as to weather I this situation is a waste of time and a dead loss.Been with a man for 18 months. LDR. We have a lot of problems but we have tried to talk them through and find a way forward. Most recently we were apart for a couple of months, and then gotten back to talking and seeing each other, although have agreed to take things,slowly and build on being together again, so we are exclusively trying, though not officially together as,such yet.So last week we had a great conversation where he really opened up about his feelings and I felt close to him again. He finds this difficult whereas to me this is easy. Since then however in the five days that followed all contact has been initiated bu me- not that there's been much just a handful of texts, and his replies have not grasped the message more sort of acknowledged. Hes done this before- hes bad with text communication. I asked him a general question on Friday night, nothing to do with us, and he hasn't replied but he's been in fb I see, and last night was liking my pictures. Should I text to ask where his head is at as I'm confused or just leave him to it? The more he does this the more used to it I am, and sadly the easier it is to just let him get on with it and step back, which makes me sad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2016): Thanks andis thoughts. We were seeing each other nearly every weekend until of couple of months break. I have been part of his kids weekends with him, and his parents etc and vis versa. The distance is about three hour drive so not massive. We don't video chat- our devices aren't great when we've tried and it just ended up frustrating. Since we split and got back together he has this thing of slowly slowly, and I wonder if that's why the contact is worse than ever.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (24 July 2016):
 I'm in an LDR, so I'm all for them, but only healthy ones. This isn't healthy.
How often do you see each other?
How often do you video chat?
How far is the distance?
How many times have you visited each other?
This looks like a break up is inevitable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2016): Hello honeypie. Thanks for responding. Apart from this period of being apart for the past couple of months, which we have only seen each other once because of the slowly approach, we were seeing each other around three out of four weekends. We are able to see each other every weekend, alternating between his and mine. What do you think?
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (24 July 2016):
 How often do you two see each other in person?
I think LDR's (in general) are doomed when after 1-2 years there are NO concrete plans to make it a No Distance Relationship.
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