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writes:i recently went on vacation; before i left i met a guy. it was a blind date of sorts, set up by a friend, and we hit it off... hung out three days in a row before i left. our last night together he hugged me, asked for sure when i'd be back, hugged me again and told me to text him if i wanted. all 3 nights we hung out he would text me after "so, do you still like me?" that night he posted a fb status "what a f**king good night", we had spent from 4pm - 1am together and when he left he was headed home and going to bed, so i sorta thought maybe it was about our night. I was in bad service most of the time... i texted 2 days after i left (with no reply), texted 2 days after and we talked for a bit;i told him he could text me. 8 days later i texted him again, and we talked some more... he never initiated contact, which sort of upset me, as before i left he was texting me all the time! i chalked it up to the fact that he knew i was attending 2 funerals, a wedding, and a family reunion. he's a sweet guy, maybe he didn't want to bother me... ? the night i got home it was late, and i loaded a bunch of pics onto my fb... just a little after he posted a status about his plans for the next day, and it the end it said "miss ya 3" ... 2 things struck me as odd: he used 2 of my words (which he's never used before) in his status "imma" instead of 'i'm gonna' or 'i'm going to', and using "ya" instead of 'you'. (even when he had girlfriends he never had "mushy" statuses)here's what threw me for a loop ... there is this girl, we'll call her K, who has texted him numerous times while he was with me (tho he ignores his phone) and recently posted "you're cute :)" on his wall (which he didn't like or reply to). he's known her for awhile, and talked about her before when we were hanging out. i kinda got a friend vibe, but the fact that he didn't text me much while i was away kinda makes me wonder. i dont like being strung out, at all. i'd rather someone just tell me straight out rather than pussy foot around things. What's your insight on it? should i text him today and give him an out like "hey, i got back home yesterday. so if you wanna hang out i'll be here... and if not thats cool too." ? maybe wait for him to contact me? guys are completely confounding!!thanx in advance!
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reader, Ima FreAk!  +, writes (6 August 2011):
 Hiyaaaa,
Just ignore him honestly coz might be sending mixed signals which will eventurally drive you insane!!
I think just ignore him and plan a meeting or whatever and don't expect a text and just link him and tell him what the hell is going on, confront him and if he hesitates or makes an excuse you know he isn't the right one for you.
Trust me you don't wanna hurt yourself and it's always good to know beforehand. If you want this relationship to progress you gotta ask him what he wants coz at the moment he looks like he is confused and worse come to worse he might be using you or he might have a personality of a player.
Or you could just jam out as a friend but try not to fall for him because your gonna be thrown in the deep end honey!
Hope my advice helps!
Good luck!
Lots of love,
Ima FreAk!
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