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30-35,
anonymous
writes:hey, just some quick advice really...I have been dating 2 girls, one girl I have been on a few dates with over the past few months and another girl I have dated a couple of times. Should I tell them that I am also dating other people because at the moment I am not looking for a relationship, I am just enjoying myself as I am not sure what I am looking for?One of the girls has never asked me if I am dating anyone else, but the other one has asked me... should I be honest and tell her? Or should I lie, and should I tell them both??! I just don't know what the best thing to do is! Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (18 September 2013):
 of course you are honest... why would you even think that a lie is acceptable?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (18 September 2013):
 Yes, be honest about it. Why lie?
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (18 September 2013):
 The best thing to do is tell them both. Be upfront about your intentions. You might lose one or both of these women, but at least you're not setting them up to get hurt. Anyway you certainly have to tell the one who directly asked - she might be seeing other people, too, and might be relieved that it's just casual dating with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2013): I would be upset if I knew the person I am dating is dating someone else. But that's just me, I don't date several people at the same time. I go on a couple of dates, and the for me it's quite obvious if it's the right person for me. And if it's not I finish with one and only then I start dating another one. So for me the dilemma should I say or not doesn't exist. Personally I think it's wrong to date several people at the same time, but if you do, honesty is the best policy.
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reader, human_male  +, writes (18 September 2013):
 Personally I think you should be honest and upfront about it, but that's just me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2013): You should tell to the one who is asking, she asked for it so you have to be honest with her.
But to the other girl, i don't think if there is a need for it. She is not your gf, your just dating. You really don't need to explain anything.
It is what it is. For you don't know the other party thinks the same way you think. so should they found someone else, they also don't owe any explanation to you.
They can disappear like harry houdini without the need of feeling guilty, same as you with them. Its nice to be single, you can date whoever you want.
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