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writes:This is not my story, but unfortunately someone told me about it and now I don't know what to do...I have a big group of Friends, and recently (a week before Xmas) one of them (friend#1) confessed to a another friend (friend #2) that she's having an affair with another friends boyfriend (friend #3).. which by the way, told us about a month ago that she is pregnant and will marry this guy next month.. apparently nobody else knows, but friend #2 could not keep the secret to herself and told me about the whole mess of friend #1 messing with the boyfriend of friend #3... Friend #1 is closer to me than friend #3 but still #3 is my friend and I don't know what to do, first of all, friend #1 doesn't know that I know!.. and if talk to #1 about this, she will assume that friend #2 told me and I honestly don't know what to do.. if friend #3 was not expecting a child I believe that I wouldn't hessitate on telling her, but due to this situation I'm totally confused..
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2011): Clearly you have a conscience and it is bothering you. It's easy to stand by and allow something wrong to be done to another person. Letting it happen is certainly easier, but is it right? You care about both friends, yet one is hurting the other. If it involved money being stolen... would it be as confusing? The friend who is cheating the other friend is enabled by everyone around her to pull off this hurtful act to your other friend. Your choice to stand by out of fear of losing the friendship from the one who has already demonstrated that she cannot be a friend to anyone... will come back to bite you.Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.You must make choices on the friends you keep and stand for the right in the world or step aside and remain silent...Martin Luther King Jr. said: “It is not the actions of the bad people, but the silence of the good people that is the threat to our society.” This includes the 'small' as well as the 'big'.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (2 January 2011):
 There's no telling who the child could be by.
Since you were the second in line to know this big, dirty secret then I would just stay out of it. There's no need to get involved in this drama. If anyone should be the one to tell this girl's fiance it would friend #2 because she heard it from the direct source. In fact, friend #2 should be urging friend #1 to tell her fiance the truth otherwise their marriage will be based off of lies and soon end in divorce.
It's in your best interest interest to watch what happens from the sidelines.
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