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writes:My boyfriend is a few years older then me and i don't know if i should tell my parents about him because they might not let me see him anymore, what do i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (11 January 2013):
Your parents will give you their consent or dissent for a reason. At their age, they have almost immeasurably more life experience than you do about what is just what is good for you. Use that experience.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (11 January 2013):
 YOU MUST tell your parents. that's what they are for.
YOUR judgement at 16/17 is clouded by hormones and inexperience.
you not telling your parents about him (unless your parents are outrageous in their beliefs or abusive) tells me YOU KNOW YOU ARE PLAYING WITH FIRE.
maybe he can come and visit at your family home with your parents around. That would be a nice compromise until you are of age. IF that is not acceptable to him then his motives are not pure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe's 21
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (10 January 2013):
 Yes. Like Garcia said, your parents ARE your safety net. You shouldn't lie or withhold this from your parents.
And can you specify your ages? His and yours?
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reader, ImmortalPrincess +, writes (10 January 2013):
 Well, how much older are we talking, and how long before you turn 18?
You are still a minor - "a few years older" means he's an adult. I don't know the laws in your country, but aside from the legal aspect of it, there are reasons your parents would not want you to have a relationship with an adult man.
In my opinion, no one under the age of eight-teen should have ANY relationship without there parents knowing about it - so yes, tell them. If they object, it is because they are looking out for what is best for you. Remember, they have knowledge and wisdom - gained through many years of life experience, and it is their job to protect you.
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