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*jjazzyjeff
writes:Hi, bit of a strange question but one I need to ask.I have recently come out of a very strong 4 year relationship, during the first 3 months of that realtionship, my ex girlfriend and I contracted genital warts (HPV), we are unsure as to where they came from as we were both virgins at the time, - her doctor said it may have been down to her stress level thow as she was always extremely stressed. We split up earlier this year and I am just about to enter into a sexual realtionship with a new girl, - I have not had ANY symptons for four years, - when I had the symptons 4 years ago there was only ever three tiny warts on the end of my scholong, they were burnt off at the gum clinic and have NEVER returned.My question is, - Should I tell my new partner about this I don't wish to rock the boat but I really think the world of her and I would hate for it to bite me on the ass in time to come..Agghh - any ideas... Cheers folks.
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reader, eve +, writes (13 August 2007):
I have done a lot of resurch in to this due to the fact that this came up with my husband.
it seems that you can get the virus and have no symtoms for years then the virus can appear. as was in our case. Im talking any time frame.it may well never come out in you, but it could at any time. the specaliast i talked to told me that" most people have come in contact with the virus, as its one of the most popular ones they deal with, but that some people dont get any symptoms, others may do in 1 ,to 25 years later. once caught it stays with you for life" intresting he also said " that wearing a durex is by no means a safe thing, although better than nothing, as any std can be transmited by skin to skin contact. so any part of you not covered by durex can catch a std. some thing to remember.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2007): as far as I know hpv that causes visible warts is from strain HPV 6, or 11- and those do not cause cervical cancer..the numerous non visible wart strains do..so..regardless of telling her and provided you don't have one of hte other invisible strains as well, you're not putting her life in danger either way. This is what I know from research but..I don't think anyone can be 100% certain that HPV 6,11 do not cause cervical cancer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2007): oh my goodness, americans can go so over the top when it comes to things like this! although genital warts are quite serious i doubt that they can be passed on unless you have the syptoms again. but if you really like this girl then i advise you to visit the doctor to get a second opinion on wether or not you should tell her, but what you must remember is if the symptoms arise again and you are still with the current girlfriend she will begin to wonder, so you have to decide wether you want to take the risk of not telling her and maybe never getting the symptoms again or telling her just incase they do arise and she will be emotionally prepared. good luck.
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reader, djjazzyjeff +, writes (4 June 2007):
djjazzyjeff is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNice to know people actaully read what I put before answering...
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reader, rk06  +, writes (2 June 2007):
 by the way... genital warts are NOT curable. the symptoms may go away. but, you will ALWAYS have the virus. I'm sorry, friend. i hope the best for u!
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reader, rk06 +, writes (2 June 2007):
bud, you should get checked. if there is any possibility that you can transmit the warts. you must tell your girlfriend. if you love her, you need to protect her from warts. they can kill her. The Human Papilloma Virus-HPV aka genital warts can cause cervical cancer. protect your loved one.
i know its hard cuz u want to leave it in the past. however, its not so simple as a white lie. not when her life is in danger.
God Bless
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2007): HPV is a virus and even if you do not have the symptoms you can still carry the virus and pass it on to partners. Some of the strains of HPV can cause cervical cancer in women. You should get advice from your own doctor or at a sexual health clinic BEFORE sleeping with your new girlfriend. When you do sleep with any new partner use a condom to protect the two of you from many STDs including genital warts.
You should tell her you have had genital warts as she has the right to make a fully informed decision if she wants to have a sexual relationship with you. Also if she finds out in the future she will probably be upset that you kept this from her.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (2 June 2007):
 You should definately see a doctor and go through any needed process to be checked out for the warts.Until then do not have sexual contact with your new partner until you hear from your doctor.If you no longer have it, there will be no need to tell her.If you do have it tell her straight away for her own safety. If you stay together you will have to don the necessary protections to protect her if you do have sex, which you probably should not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2007): Personally, i dont think you should mention it as if it was me i would think it was something i didnt need to know as it would probably make me more unrelaxed during sex.If you really are worried about it, then pop back to the clinic just to check, this will then put your mind at ease. Best wishes.
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