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writes: okay well i sort of have a past experience with some things that most ppl wouldn't. lets just say i was'nt any where near good. i am with this new guy and i fear that he will not want to be with me if he finds out. he is sort of a good boy and still a virgin so i feel like so bad not telling him but some things he NEEDS TO KNOW! he says it won't make a difference between us and he says he still really loves me and nothing will change it. but that is before he really knows... should i tell him about my past or just try to let it go?signed confused-
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2006): Hi there...
I know what you are going through. I also have a very bad past. One that I aint proud of...
e.g. When I was 13, I started rebeling. I started drinking heavily, smoking very heavily, and I also started smoking cannabis.I used to go to house partys every weekend where we would smoke, drink and get high. When I was 14, I got pregnant to a lad that was 18, but possibly due to high stress levels, I lost the baby. That was a wake up sign for me, and I quit the drinkin, I eventually quit the smokin (which was so hard because i was addicted) and I quit the cannabis. From the moment I took my pregnancy test, I realised what kind of life I was leading, and i knew had to make a change. I made that change, and it even changed my views towards things like drugs. I am now against drugs and wouldnt go near them ever again!
My boyfriend knows about my past as i am truthful with him. I just told him the basics like what i have told you, and if he wants to know anything else, he is free to ask.
I suggest that you do that. I feel that it is the right thing to do.
Good luck sweety! I hope this helps xx
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reader, GodofGraphics +, writes (3 April 2006):
 You cant lead him on to beleive you've been an angel in the past. If the guy loves you, then he'll understand. Tell him you've done things in the past that you're not proud of, or tell him some things you've done.
Dont go into detail, because it will hurt him, but if you're not open with him, it will eat you up from the inside. To have love, you need trust. You dont need to lie, do not lie, just dont tell him everything.
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