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writes:Hi,I have been with my girlfriend now for four years we have a very close bond and get on really well together and want I wish to spend the rest of my life with her. We meet over the internet and since have moved in together and are now looking to set up a family unit, however, my girlffriend as been away visiting relatives over the past week and I have not spoken to your seen her since. But last night I was on a chat site and ended up having cybersex with a person I dont know. I am really ashamed of myself and have a huge guilt over my shoulders. I desperatly want to tell her but I fear if that would be a bad idea as i do not want to ruin our relationship. I don't know if she would forgive me as she thinks thinking is cheating. Just would really appreciate it if you could give me any help and advice on the situation.
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reader, daisy92 +, writes (11 August 2010):
well, if you's are close tell her? it sounds to me like a silly mistake isnt going to get in the way. my advice is, tell her. but make sure she knows just how sorry you are and that it WONT happen again.if she really loves you , she will forgive you. first few weeks will be hard, you will have to earn back her trust for you. but if you never told her and she found out some other way. she may never be able to trust you again. at least if you tell her she will know that if you were ever to do anything like that again you would tell her. anyway, its up to you and how your girlfriend will react but good luck no matter what you choose
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2010): On this one i would keep your mush shut...to save your girls feelings what an insult.
you wanna live in fantasy thats your choice or touch the REAL woman you have, your choice...
You should have been more adventurous with your own woman while she was away..could have got her to strip on a web cam for you, left you kinky notes.
Maybe you need to be discussing what you could do.
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reader, cocoqueen88  +, writes (11 August 2010):
 nope keep it to yourself. no point in telling her really. not like you went out and got a prostitute. i mean is she really gonna ask..."hey did you have any cyber sex while i was away?"... probably not so you won't have to lie or tell the truth. keep it to yourself. no biggie.
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reader, Cloverfield +, writes (11 August 2010):
 I know the 'right' thing to do is tell her...... but dont! In reality it'll do you no favours at all. Fine, your concience may be clear, but she will be hurting really badly. If you absolutely have to tell someone, tell a friend or family member you trust.
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