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30-35,
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writes:i can already picture the yelling and the crying in my ear at the other end of the phone i can see his face and how hurt he feels . thinking about it tears me apart and i can't do it .i'm 20 and i'm engaged to my bf of one yr i'm super happy with him i love him and i miss him hes in the army and his contract will expire in one month which means he will finally be at my side . people think i'm crazy cause i'm young and i want to get married but i love him and I've done everything with him even now helping him with depression.i've never cheated on him but back in high school i would now that I've found what and who I've wanted i wouldn't. i don't believe in the term once a cheater always a cheater because i think time and certain people change you and I've changed ,Ive made him my everything . but last night i went out with to a friends house to drink and talk on a side note everyone knows i'm engaged but for reasons unknown to me this one guy didn't get the picture and while i went inside to use the bathroom he followed me and when i walked out the lights were off and i just felt someone grab me and try to kiss me i pushed him off and tried to find the door but he kept holding me back and proceeded to touch me i kept saying stop and he didn't finally pushing away and making my way to the door i walked out and quickly left the party the whole ride home i was quite and when i got to my house i burst into tears because i felt like i was violated and that somehow it was my fault and i felt like i cheated even though i didn't give in.my friends keep saying its not my fault but why do i feel like crying i just really need my fiance with me i haven't told him because i'm scared hes going to blame me and get angry which he will he will blame me for going and knowing better and i don't want him to cry and yell at me and then later blame himself for not being there . telling him things like this makes his depression worse and i can't do anything to make him stop thinking all these thoughts like going awol and etc .. i know i'm wrong if i keep it from him but its killing me that i can't tell him either because i'm afraid of his reaction the last time i told him i missed him and i was tired of being without him he went awol and then i got him to finally go back i don't want to give him a reason to mess up again . what do i do ? i keep crying everytime i talk to him because i miss him and i want him here soo much to protect me all i want is him i feel so alone i feel like i'm dealing with being raped all over again because i was back in school Ive dealt with the issue but now i feel it coming back . please help me tell me what to do. should i tell him should i wait ? should i just ignore it and pretend like it never happed?
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reader, thomas1214  +, writes (28 March 2011):
Get your man to be the man and show this douche who is your man. Understand? once his contract is up of course and no not your fault because the other guy was the one making moves on you.
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reader, lcool  +, writes (28 March 2011):
Yeah girl I honestly think be you must be open with your man, tell him all that has happen. If he really really wants you then the two of you will come with a solution.
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