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male
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30-35,
*oey Heartthrob
writes:Ok so me and my girlfriend have been talking for 9 months and have been official for about 4. Before we were official everything was all good, i was talking to other girls but she was always my main. Since we have been official I have been completely faithful and I love her and cant see myself with any other girl at the present.We live about 30-45 min away from each other so most of our communication was over the phone, SMS or Skype, with sleepover visits once or twice a weekend. We have always had fluent, relevant, and interesting conversations up until recently.The phone convos recently within the last month or so seem a bit boring, either one of us is too exhausted to talk or we just have nothing really interesting to talk about, sitting on the phone for hours making small talk or sitting in silence. We both work and she recently got a new job where she can not text at all during most of the day.She will be at work for a whole day and not even text or call before she goes in and I wont hear a word from her until an hour or so after she was set to get off, by then it is late in the evening before I hear the first word from her. And when she does have time to talk during the day i'd rather text than talk on the phone because the convo is just so boring after like the first 5 minutes of how was your day when the one word responses from her ensue.I feel like im getting bored with the relationship. We don't even argue. I try to start little arguments just to see where her head is and its a dead cause. She doesn't really seem to care about anything I do or say, shes just like whatever to anything and it feels like I'm just her boyfriend when its convenient to her. I don't know if its just me over analyzing things or what. When we're together in person everything is great, I think that if we spent more time together I wouldn't feel the way i feel now. The thing is she is super content with the way things are and thinks we spend enough time together the 1-2 days a week we do. What can I do to get the message across to her or make things better? or is this just an internal problem that I need to deal with?
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reader, Carlakins08 +, writes (29 March 2011):
It sounds like the relationship is in a lull and at this point you can go two ways. Either continue or end. If you continues it sounds like you need to sit down and talk about it. Something could be wrong with her that is causing a sudden lag in conversation. Maybe if you bring it to her attention she will understand and it will make you feel better about it.
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