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writes:My boyfriend dumped me by email over the Easter bank holiday, after an on/off relationship that spanned 26 years, telling me he had moved to Italy with his friend, which I knew was a lie because he had been phoning supposedly from Italian hotels and I got withheld number messages. A previous girlfriend told me he had been lying for 6 years about where he lived and that he had been cheating on me for at least 3 months. I have now discovered a photograph of him and his new woman on Facebook and know her name and phone number. Should I tell her? He has not only been unfaithful but cost me thousands and behaved similarly badly to the woman who had known him in one of the two gaps in my relationship with him. Quite apart from a wish for justice, I am concerned that he will hurt the new woman too.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (21 July 2009):
 I agree with Uncle Phil. Though someone like him is not very smart and will get caught real fast. If you feel a strong sense of "needing to tell her" for more reasons then revenge then go ahead. Proof or not she might not believe you. Some women rather not know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2009): She'll probably find out sooner or later anyway, but if you must do this, make sure you hand over irrefutable proof of what he's doing so that she knows you're not making it all up in some act of revenge and get branded a psycho!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (21 July 2009):
Well you can if you like, but be prepared for her to call you all kinds of names and think you are a psychotic ex girlfriend type.
If you are going to do it then do it fast and once, then leave him alone.
As for justice, you just have to learn from your mistakes and realise that after 26 years of on off stuff - it might be time to move on. If you can realise this after 6 months next time and not spend any money then you might be getting somewhere.
Good Luck!! xx
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