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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes: Hey guys, my gf and i broke up recently. Her parents are great and i really like them. Just before we broke up i sent Christmas cards for the two of them. ( they are separated) well her dad sent me a Christmas card back and he was asking me if i was going to ask her daughter's hand. Im not sure if he was kidding. I think he doesn't know yet or at the moment he didn't know about our break up. Basically i proposed her and she turned me down. Should i text him thanking him for all the attentions and explain him what happened or just forget it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2014): I would send a quick reply just saying i already did ask but his daughter unfortunately said no. And just say all the best for new year and leave it at that. I do agree in some sense that if you are broken up with your girlfriend although you may have been good friends with her parents it is now time to leave past alone and move on.
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reader, Ciar +, writes (27 December 2014):
If you were thinking of contacting him out of the blue to inform him, then I'd say that was offside, but since the father has sent you a Christmas card and asked, then I see no harm in simply answering the question.
Be matter of fact and BRIEF, then move on to thanking him for the card and wishing him a very happy new year.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2014): Nope, not your place to talk about her life to her parents. To be honest, don't think you should have sent a card to your ex's parents either. You split up and you have to accept you are not a part of their families life anymore because they'll meet someone new one day and they will be.
It's bit weird trying to maintain some sort of relationship with an ex's family.
She will tell them in her own time, you now need to move on and end communication with her family. You don't need to reply to her father, she will eventually tell him what happened as she is his daughter. He doesn't need to hear it from you, the ex.
Focus on your future now instead of clinging onto the past.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2014): I would write back and explain, but do it nicely with all the how are yous? And how's your (garden) [insert particular interest here] going.
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