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writes: Should I blurt out my feelings ? There is a mutual attraction between myself and a work colleague which has been building up for months. The frustration of not saying anything is really taking it's toll and me. It also seems to be taken a toll on him. We are both becoming snappy with each other over petty things at work, while at other times we ignoring each other. It has become unbearable, I don't know how long I can do this. I just want to tell him how I feel and see what happens, but then if he doesn't feel the same way or does not want an office romance, things will become even worse. Help !!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2006): Hi Gal,We are facing the same problem, I noticed my manager is fond of me, it has been almost a year however, both don't have the gut to talk in out directly, I know how you feel, esp office romance.Let me ask you, is he a very shy person, are you working in the same dept and what make you think that he likes you, or he just being friendly?Not so difficult to find out whether a person is fond of you or not, most important, you must observe him closely, his body languages, esp. eye contacts, Im sure you can sense something when he looked into your eyes, another, will be his behaviour, he seems to be uneasy whenever you're getting close to him, at times he wanted you to notice him by making funny noise or action in order to capture your attention etc etc....If all the above which I mentioned is happening then you can go ahead and build up the friendship with him, let the nature to takes it course, don't get panic, stay cool and calm, if he really likes you he will not hestiate to further the relationship from colleague to friend and lover....Good luck to you!
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reader, bonym  +, writes (31 August 2006):
 I dont think that you should just blurt them out like that, it may make things more arkward. Why dont you try and establish some form of mutual friendship first, then see how things go. The signs you have descrbed do sound like two people are incredibly sexually frustrated but I am not convinced that blurting out your feelings like that will help, sometimes you can misread signals so make sure you are very sure he is attracted to you first. xXx
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reader, pica +, writes (31 August 2006):
Sorry but are you sure this is mutual? I'd expect chemistry with a colleague to manifest as looking forward to seeing each other, laughs, jokes and sharing confidences - not snapping and ignoring. Is it possible you're the one with the feelings and he's having a hard time handling it? Take a step back, have a look at the situation and maybe hold off assuming there is a romance in the picture.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2006): it sounds like you two have an amazing chemistry!!! half you're luck!! i work with june and joan in the acounts office, and there both touching 70!!!! let it keep bubbling like a boiling point, until it over spills into a wonderful night of wild abandon and extasty!!! i need a lie down now!!!
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reader, Helen1986 +, writes (31 August 2006):
 How can things become worse than they are? Take him to one side and explain your feelings, it could be the best move you will ever make. If he doesn't feel the same, ask him ehy he is treating you the way he is. Ask him to stop, tell him it is getting you down and you cannot work in these conditions. He should then realise and stop. I think though from what you have said that he likes you too, so your best bet is to tell him how you feel. I wish you all the luck in the world
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