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writes:I've grown intimate with a guy when i'd broken up with my ex.the guy happened to be my best friend.Now i don wanna tell this to my ex since we're back in a relationship.But he knows that i had a best friend and we were good friends.Now he's really possessive about me.What do i do?I don wanna tell him.and just leave the past behind.I promise to remain true to him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2010): Lying is not a good way to start over. Your BF has a right to know especially since you are in a friendship with this other man. He may not like it and you may end up spitting up but he still has the right to know.
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reader, mylassie10  +, writes (18 June 2010):
 I just had this experience and my boyfriend and I are now broken up. I had gone a few dates with someone when we were broken up. When my ex and I decided to see each other again and try to work things out, I had told him. He got mad but I thought we would be ok and move on from it. A few days ago, he went on a date and told me. We weren't official but he knew I wanted to work things out and he had to go be spiteful and ruin everything. So my advice...don't tell him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2010): If this guy is still a friend of yours, its definitely his business to know.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (17 June 2010):
 Tell us what "really possessive" means.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2010): I agree with Bunny and Q, but I feel like in a healthy relationship, if it's going to be long-term, you should tell him if you're going to feel guilty about it. Hopefully, if he loves you, he'll understand. On the other hand, you're 16-17, so I highly doubt this is the man you're going to marry someday so it doesn't really matter.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2010): no...no...no...no...no...no...no...no...no...mal
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2010): If you are still friends with this other guy then it's wrong to let your boyfriend think there was never anything sexual between you and him.
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (17 June 2010):
 Whatever you did in the span of time you were split from your ex, stands alone, you weren't "with" your ex and so weren't obligated to remain exclusive to him on any level.
I see no reason why you need to confess this to anyone. I see nothing "wrong". Now, if your guy asks you, then you should be honest and tell him. But if it doesn't need saying why bring it up?
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reader, boydjohn026 +, writes (17 June 2010):
If the two of you were broken up at the time, it's none of your boyfriends business who you were with.
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