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writes:I have a constant problem when it comes to be honest about how I feel. My boyfriend is a very sensitive person and cares a lot about how I feel. When I’m upset about something my boyfriend did, I always make excuse on why he did that. For example, he slept until noon on the weekend, and I was unhappy that he didn’t spend time with me. I wasn’t mad at him because I tell myself he worked hard all week and he deserves to sleep in. I sub-conscientiously start thinking my boyfriend doesn’t care about me. If he did, he would be more considerate. My boyfriend was very worry about me. He asks me if everything was alright. I told him I was fine, but I wasn’t acting as if I was. My boyfriend felt I didn’t want to be around him anymore. He patiently told me if there’s something wrong, I got to tell him honestly. If I was honest about little things that I’m not happy about, I’m afraid I will appear to be a very annoying girl. There are many things if I told him, I might hurt his feeling. I always thought it’ll be better if I didn’t say anything about it. How can I find a balance? I think it’s more my problem than my boyfriend’s. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2007): You know what I have the EXACT same troubles going on. We found it easier to communicate via e-mail (I’m a naturally shy person and don’t like to upset anyone – I would rather be upset that some one else)…anyway we found that an email or a text when apart was a hell of a lot easier for me to say what was wrong. Stupid I know but it works for us.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2007): you have the same problem as me! i get upset over little silly things like that. then i think and think about it until i get upset and them im mad at him for silly reasons. i know im mad over something dumb,but i can't help let it eat at me! and i dont want to say anything to him becase i kno its petty and im afraid , as you are, that he will get annoyed with me. my boyfriend, like yours, is very sweet, affectionate, and caring. i fear i will drive him off with all of my insecurities. but i think i agree with pgissyd. just explain to him that you get upset over these things and its just because you care for him. also tel him how he can make you feel better when you get upset, im sure he would respond well, appreciate your honesty, and do everything he can to make you happy. What do you mean when you say that you may hurt his feelings iwth some things? hope this helps and please update bc i'd love to hear more since we have similar issues. good luck and best wishes :)
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reader, pgissyd  +, writes (19 November 2007):
 Hi Yuna! First if you dont tell him what is bothering you he will feel shut out and will loose trust in you. Explain to him the sameway you have wrote here. that the little thngs eat at you, but you ont know why, tell him you wanted to spend time with him, why didnt you lie in with him? You need to compromise with him or you will drive youreslf and your boy friend mad.
Be honest and open at all times.
xxx good luck xxx
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