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writes: Hello i have a dream question.First off, Im a very caring loving person dispite how vocal and rude i can be. So yknow, when somethings wrong with some one i'll tell them 'i love you' because i care about them and no matter what, i'll be there.Now, saying 'I love you' to my boyfriend is the same just more meaningful. But anyway.So heres my dream: i was playing on a game system and i was messaging a friend who just got broken up with and a message to me was 'i love you too', my boyfriend walked in the room and saw that and took it the wrong way. He wouldnt talk to me or anything to do with me. I tried so hard to get him to listen and believe me but he wouldnt.I woke up devastated and wanting to cry so bad. I know it was a dream but it felt so real. My boyfriend is a big part of life and i love him deeply i'd hate to lose him. Im not sure if i should tell my boyfriend or just let my dream slip and not worry.I feel weird now to even help my friends because of this.Thank you. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh boy..Believe me when i say he trusts me. He'd made feel inscure over something and reasured me it wasnt an intention of his. But i went to be crying that night n told him why today.
But anyway thats besides the point.
I care for an ex of mine whos in the hospital right now and he feels alone, but i havent sed i loved him just tell him im here for him. And besides that, thats the only time i wont tell some one i love them is when it comes down to an ex.
I dont have very many girl friends, only 2 that i hardly ever talk to.As i am homeschooled and live far from them. But over the gaming system i have accompanied many guy friends, Im not sure if this helping any but i feel its a need to know.
My boyfriend is very understanding person and is there to hold my hand through EVERYTHING.
But your right, even though you dont know how my love and are besides my question, your actually dead on with your answer.
I suppose i'll let this slip and move on from this. I'll think carefully on my choiced words to friends in need.
Thank you so very much k_c100.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (16 November 2010):
 Well the simple solution would be to:
1. Only tell your female friends you 'love' them
2. Keep on helping your friends but stop using 'love' when you speak to them. So for example, you could say "your one of my best friends, I really care about you and I am here for you if you need me". That keeps it friendly and doesnt indicate any sort of feelings for that person you are talking to.
But most of all, remember this is just a dream and it is not real life. Dreams are just a way of your body processing extra inputs that have come into the brain during the day that it did not have time to deal with while you are awake. These can often be insecurities - like being afraid of losing a loved one (i.e. your boyfriend). But it does not mean it is really going to happen!
I'm sure in real life you and your boyfriend have a good relationship, you trust each other and love each other. Therefore even if that situation ever occurred where you are talking to a friend online and he sees something that can be taken the wrong way, he trusts you enough to ask you "who are you talking to" and then you say "oh it is my friend xxxxx who has just broken up with her/his partner". Then the situation would be resolved and he would not break up with you.
Communication is key in relationships, and I'm sure you two are both happy and in a good relationship (rather than a troubled one) therefore there is no reason why your boyfriend would fly off the handle like this in real life. I'm sure he would just ask you what is going on, you would tell him and then he would be fine with it.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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