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writes:Basically two years ago in uni i met a guy i really liked, which subsequently was a factor that made me decide to split with my then boyfriend realising i was looking for someone new. However soon after a close friend started seeing this guy, in a non exclusive way.I really liked this guy and felt disappointed because he had told another friend he liked me etc, which he then told me. A month went by and him and my friend were still seeing eachother and basicly after a night out while she was away we kissed and ended up sleeping together etc he went on about how much he liked me and wanted to be with me etc. I felt awful about my friend and in the end decided to leave it for the sake of my friendship with her. However my moment of weakness happened later again when she stopped seeing him and she moved onto a serious relationship with someone new. Me and this guy simply drifted apart. Since all this we have become really close friends been on holiday together etc, could even say best friends, and even though it was two years ago i feel incredible guilt and wonder whether i should tell her or not? should i leave the past in the past, as what they had was never serious, or should i be honest and risk losing a friend who i must say i would never betray! It really upsets me because i keep remembering it and hating myself for it, what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2008): Well just think about it this way: if your friend did this to you, then what would you rather her do? Tell you earlier, later, or not at all? Think about what would have happened if you found out from a different source. Just think about what you would have wanted her to do if she was in your shoes.
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reader, lolly45665 +, writes (16 October 2008):
lolly45665 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI agree I know it was wrong ive suffered depression due to what i did and i knw i dont deserve to feel better or be happy, and yes i am truelly ashamed, I just wish i knew what to do but thank you for your comments anyway
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008): Well you probably shouldn't have done that in the first place and you could've saved yourself a whole bunch of guilt. I can't believe any girl could possibly do that to her friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008): I just had a similar situation happen to me and you should feel ashamed and awful. No guy is ever worth doing that to a friend.
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