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writes:Hi Friends hereI have been dating a guy for about 2 months. We see each other every week and text everyday. We originally met each other on a casual dating site...and i guess both of us do not expect that that we are so attracted to each other and so in sync. The problem is, i lied about my age in the online profile...i said i was 37 but i was 50. He said he was 43 and the forth times we met he told me he was actually 48. (I looked very young one time a nurse mistaken my age to be 20 years younger than my really age...i have to tell you, its a blessing BUT also a curse to me all the time.)He asked me about my age almost every time we met though he's not pushy. He said he wanted to know everything about me. I told him that we were within a range of 5 years difference and he thought i was 43! I do look very very young my age that's also why i am so shy to tell him. And he seemed to be relieved last time when i was not like 10 years younger than him. He don't want someone who is too young. Up till now i haven't braced up to tell him my real age...which cause a big burden on myself. I was afraid if i told him i was 50 that would jeopardize our relationship and his perception on me. My haunting 'ghost' is that, how can a 50 year old be sexually attractive for someone who originally register at a casual dating site? (The fact is, i was sexually attractive to him despite my real age). We are both decent and intellectual persons but this problem has haunted me soooo much now.What do you guys think? How should i told him about this? Please, your answer is invaluable to me!!!!!Jayme
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reader, Jayme +, writes (25 August 2015):
Jayme is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey GuysHave to update u a bit...u guys must think i m a total coward.. :((This is referring to my previous post a month ago. i told him we are in the range of 5 years difference....didnt tell him exact age because i wanted a soft landing.Today he asked me again...i asked him to guess and when he guessed to 47 i asked if i can pause here...He asked if this is really a big issue for me and if i trust him...I explained my previous notorious experience because my ex was younger than me 15+years...I feel devastating now and exposing this weakness (age, unwilling to face the age issue) has completely eaten me up. I don't know whether it is my own haunting ghost and that other didn't really give a damn to this 'small issue'I am imagining i will lose him because i still think the cyber place we meet - a casual dating site - guys are looking for young girls...Freaking out now :0 and low energy level.Jayme
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reader, Jayme +, writes (23 July 2015):
Jayme is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi Friends
Thanks so much for your responses...at least i do not feel alone dealing with this problem...
I hope i can sort this out with bravery...
Perhaps what i will do is to find a right timing, ask him 'what if' questions and see how it goes, before i reveal that to him...
Thanks again, you guys have given me so much positive energies!!!
Cheers
Jayme
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (22 July 2015):
 just tell him. he also lied to you about his age remember? if you can get away with pretending you are younger, you are lucky. putting a younger age on your online dating profile can guarantee more dates, so why not? what you have done has not harmed anyone so stop beating yourself up about it. just tell him. he either accepts it or he doesn't. if you develop a more permanent relationship with him he will find out your true age at some point, so if he doesnt like it it is best to find out now
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reader, Too_Trusting  +, writes (22 July 2015):
If you think this relationship has any chance, you have to tell him. The longer you wait, the worse it will be. And as was pointed out...2 years??? Who cares? There's obviously something there...
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (21 July 2015):
 If the age difference is sufficiently important that he will dump you when you "come clean".... then it really wasn't much of a "relationship" after all... was it????
Good luck...
(P.S. My S/O is 10 years my senior.. but, who cares?????)
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (21 July 2015):
Why not tell him? He lied about his age too. Truth is you are only 2 years older, NO big deal.
I do want to say this though... WHY lie about your age? It makes you look untrustworthy.
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