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writes:I've never had many guy friends but I've become a bit closer to a guy I knew since about college but only starI've never had many male friends but I've become a bit closer to a guy I knew since about college but only started getting friendly with after he broke it off with my friend (introduced them). That's been about 2 years now. We message each other mostly about positivity and work and family issues. He's very nice. We've gone out together (with other people) once or twice not regularly. He has asked me a few times why I don't have a girlfriend or why I don't search for one. He made go to a sorta speed dating thing once. I've made up a few quick excuses each time trying to avoid telling him I'm gay and have no experience or information on women even though I have lots of female friends.One of the reasons i have no guy friends People just think im player. This friend call him Sean suggested we become roommates to pay lower rent. I like the idea but im afraid living with him will eventually reveal im gay and ruin our friendship. Should i tell him im gay before moving in together or not say anything? He seems like a nice guy but i live in Honduras were people hate and kill gay people and being open about it can get you hurt.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (25 April 2018):
 If you feel unsafe by revealing your sexuality then that is nobodies business but your own. Do what is best for you. It makes me sad to hear that in 2018 people are still scared to tell others there sexuality. You deserve to be happy and to live life to the full. So you should do what makes you happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2018): You have to turn-down the offer or come clean, and tell him you're gay.
If you are developing an attraction to him, living with him will be a total disaster. He will continue asking you why you don't have a girlfriend, or he'll fix you up. Then what?
If you don't tell him, he will figure it out on his own. It would be a terrible situation to sign a lease with someone you're not comfortable living with.
Try to find-out if he's a violent type of homophobe. You don't want a friend like that. If someone else outs you, he will be stigmatized as gay. He will be very angry to find-out after you've moved-in.
You have to remember; with him comes his friends, family, and girlfriends. They will visit. You will be very uncomfortable; and always explaining yourself, or lying. That's no way to have to live. Especially if he accidentally discovers you're gay, and feels you've deceived him. That could be very dangerous for you. He'll try to throw you out to save face.
Living with him is a bad idea; especially if you have to hide your sexual-orientation and make up lies.
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