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writes:I found out this guy was totally using me. He said all the right things. i believed him. He was my FIRST. he knew this. yet he did it anyway. He only wanted sex - even tho he told me he didn't.I also know that he is chatting with other girls - with one planning hook ups (phone numbers and address have been exchanged) and with other saying he wants a relationship.If he lost interest fine, but he was stringing me a long. it was like he just wanted to score a virgin.Now these past few weeks, i spoke to him about how it was going - i did not know all of this then. He would still make plans with me, but cancel them right before saying he had to work. I wasnt to know he probably was lying -We seemed to agreed to be friends. I confused me by saying 'for now/not ruling it out'. and small little things he kept hinting. maybe he didn't mean it that way but its the way i came across. I was still confused and on saturday asked if i could talk to him and he said "not this again". "feels like your saying extreme things to get my attention you dont have to ok just relax a bit" Then start of the last week he tells me "i still smile at your photos very cute".I told him i haven't been well. he says "you can tell me. im here". i wasn't trying to get back with him,, he was confusing me. he would say stuff that showed interest, hen act weird. if we were friends u dont act like this. right, well, now i know what kind of guy he really is... theres no way in hell i want to be with him again. But if i see/speak with him again - i think i might, not very soon tho - should i tell him why i haven't been well?the dude has got no idea.i have been sooo scared. probably made me act a little different. why? i thought i was pregnant. to the point where i got blood test done. i was freaked out.Also, the way my first time happened, not the sex, the way it happened, has been haunting me...Theres nothing to be done from him. but i kinda in a way want him to know...scare him a bit. lol. think of what he put me through.should i tell him? ..........for some reason i do... let him know what he put me through. he may not care. he may care to my face and be all sweet - that seems to be him....is it bad idea to tell him?just that u know i havent been well these past few weeks. why?i thought i was pregnant. then i'll wait for his reaction. and that this past month ive been scared........ i know he's a jerk. i'll never sleep with him again.. but for some reason i want him to suffer/know what he's put me through. but in a good way lol, i dont want to stoop to his level...good or bad? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2008): this is from the orignal poster
No. They changed my subject title. And i probably worded it wrongly....
I wasn't going to tell him just to upset him.
I thought i WAS pregnant. im not.
I haven't been well lately, and he knows it, and may have been acting a little freaked out. He thinks it was coz over "us". but it wasn't. I was freaking out coz i thought i was pregnant. i had 2 have a blood test as home tests were inclulsive.
plus for another reason, i cant just cut ties. but contact will be limited.
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reader, Griffo +, writes (23 December 2008):
 No, he might like it. and you'll look like a dork when nothing happens... Some blokes change at the instant of a life changing event. For the worst or for the best.
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reader, MommyOfOne  +, writes (22 December 2008):
 I've done that before when I was about 15.
Bad choice.
Don't do it.
I promise, its not worth it.
Just cut ties with him. Let him go. Stop ALL contact. THAT will be a kick in the balls. The fact that you just walked away.
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