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writes:So- I am in my early 20's and I was a single mother for over two years (during all of my pregnancy and till my son was about one and a half)... I met this amazing guy (who is almost a year youner than me) and we started a relationship. I soon found out that he was a virgin- that has since changed though... We have been together for about 2 months. I feel like I am in love with him, he is a true gentleman (trust me, I have dated a lot of jerks in the past) and treats me with so much consideration and always lets me know that he understands my son comes first.But my real question comes from- When brought to the subject of love he keeps saying that he wants to be sure that he is in love with me first before saying this and I want to know- How do I respond to this? Should I tell him that I love him? Should I wait for him to say it first to know that he is there too?Just to say- I understand his hesitation... kinda... he has been hurt in the past by women who said that they loved him and has had a challenging past b/c his parents divorced when he was young...But I don't know if I even want to be the one to say "I love you" first b/c that is always what has happened in my past relationships and they have never worked out... But I do love him and want him to know... So should I tell him- or should I wait??
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2011): Guys will love you because they love you, not because they know you loved them first... You know him best--is he the type who might get scared if he feels you want too much commitment too soon?
Either way, let him do the chasing, and let him say it first. Hopefully he'll get there soon. 2 months is a short time though.
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