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writes:I have a boyfriend and we have been dating for about a year and half now. I have never cheated on him, but he surely has. I don't know if hes gay or not, because I have found out many stuff about him on emails, trying to meet with guys online, i just don't know if he has met with them or not. He was in hawaii at the time that he was sending those emails, we were in a long distance relationship. When he came to visit me for the first time, we had amazing sex and we always used condoms. Before him I had 2 other sexual relationships but that was 6 months before I met him. I currently found out that I have HPV and i don't know what to do. I have many genital warts and they are visible. We havent had sex in 3 months now, he doesnt want to. The last time we tried he couldnt get a hard on, he told me it was because he was really stress out. I dont know what to do. SHould i tell him? please help me
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2010): YES! You definitely need to tell him. You also need to take care of yourself as well. You have a high risk strain of HPV and he should know that he has it so he doesn't spread it to other people. Unfortunately, HPV can still be transmitted when you use condoms. Most importantly take care of yourself and go to the gyno at least once a year to make sure this virus doesn't get any worse. Being that you are already positive for HPV, you will most likely have to go to the gyno about every 4 months until they see that your condition has improved. In most cases this virus clears up on its own and so long as you stay on top of your gyno appointments you should have no further complications down the road.
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (28 May 2010):
 You need to tell him. And you both need to see a doctor so others don't get infected.
I realize that you are the victim in this situation. And I really feel bad for you. Sexually active people can not have secrets about STDs.
Good Luck!
Jeff
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2010): Yes, you should.
If for no other reason than that you should always tell your partner if you find out you have a STD. they have the right to know.
Do you think it's he who gave you the STD or do you think you have gotten it from one of your previous boyfriends? HPV can , i'm not sure what to call it, "lay low" and then show itself much later than just after you've been infected.
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