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anonymous
writes:There's this guy at college, who I've become close to! At first I hardly spoke to him but now we never shut up and really get along - as friends!! But the thing is, I don't see him just as a friend. From the moment I saw him, I instantly had a crush on him (Which was why I was too shy to talk to him first off) and because of our developing friendship, I've fallen for him even more! He's such an amazing guy.However, I don't know how he feels about me! He's really nice to me... but he's nice to all of his friends :/ Which gives me doubts that he has any kind of feelings for me. I want to tell him, but it could destroy our strong bond and it would make things awkward between us - which would kill me inside.But people are talking about us. In the lesson we had together, he got out of his seat to get his work or something and I was just staring at him (unaware others were watching) then I heard giggling in the background and this girl said "stop staring at his bum" - quite loudly too! Then I quickly replied "I'm not!!!" but I don't think I was too convincing. Then I started being a bit offish with him and not talking as I thought he'd heard but maybe he didn't as he seemed quite normal with me! The problem is, he's going to find out... it's only a matter of time! I'm way too friendly towards him, my eyes light up as he enters the room, I talk endlessly to him, gazing into his eyes, I laugh at anything he says, hang out with him during free periods... etc! I bet everyone in the class has noticed.I am glad I've found someone, it's helping me move on from a teacher at my secondary school who I became immensely infatuated with. But what can I do? Should I tell him and risk our friendship, or let him find out from someone else, which would perhaps lead to an awkward confrontation between him and me?Please help! I don't know what to do for best.xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2008): Dear I am glad you are feeling this way.What you can probably do is tell him you are attracted to someone and would need him to help you with it.Start out this way.see his reaction.Slowly open up and tell him that its him!!Its better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all.But if he says no please do not pursue him as this puts off a guy.How does he behave with you?Has he touched you unnecessarily?taking your hands while you tried to cross the road ,trying to steer your elbow?Does he call you often?Are you the only girl he hangs out with.Try to look your best around him.All the best.let us know how things proceed
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reader, meforyou +, writes (7 October 2008):
as much as you probably dont want to, you should tell him. sounds like he likes you 2. maybe you should try looking at him and seeing if his eyes light up when you enter the room. maybe ask his friends if he's said anything about liking you or try flirting and see if he flirts back. You never know, it might be him telling you how he feels. good luck ;)
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