A
female
age
26-29,
*eeninlove
writes:Well I'll start at the beginning. I have been in love with a women that's ten years older than me for three years. I want to state very cleary right now that I am not a naive obsessed teen either. I first met this women through my church, which I think it torturous because you know what church people usually think about women with women or things that are different from the norm. Trust me I've grown up in the church we met. Well when we first met I was immeadiately taken with her. She was the most intriguing and beautiful person I had ever met. I liked to be around her and just listen to what she said. She never treated me like a child even though I was at that awkward preteen age. She and I then began to form a close relationship. We hung out alot over the years mostly alone to watch tv or a movie, to go out to lunch or just to go out and do something. We talked about almost anything you could imagine but there were those awkward times when we were at a loss for words. I always looked directly a her eyes when we spoke and I could see that she was always engaged in the conversation we were having. Sometimes when we had nothing to say we would just turn our attention to something else by I could feel her looking at me or me looking at her then our eyes would meet but she quickly darted her eyes away. When we hung out we also always found a way to be physically connected. Our arms or thighs would touch when we sat side by side.A year and a half into ou friendship she was diagnosed with cancer. I was one of the people she leaned on for support and this was a poit in my life that i realized I had true feelings for her. I already loved her like a sister but I was also having feelings of love and I began to think about her alot. I was and am really confused about these emotions because i always thought of myself as straight. I began to really see how beautiful she is and even though she went through chemo she was still full of life and tried so hard not to show me her fear and anxiety over having this disease. She finally got better and she and I spent more time tougher. The only thing that began to get in the way is when she went to her support group she met someone and pretty soon she began a relationship with him. He moved away but they still have a very good relationship. I still have the same feelings of lover for her and I just wan. Her to be happy but I know that I can't truly be happy until I hav her for my own. I struggle between just keeping our friendship he way it is or telling her how I feel but I know if I do we can't be just friends if she rejects me. I am so confused and I just need advice on how I can deal with this please help me.
View related questions:
engaged Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Teeninlove +, writes (14 December 2010):
Teeninlove is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Fallbackgirl. I know I should tell her and yea we do have a pretty close bond. I think I'll just take it one day at a time and tell her when the time is right. I also think that your advice on waiting till I'm at least 18 is a good idea too so that if something does happen we won't run into any issues. I really appreciate it.
A
female
reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (14 December 2010):
 If you really love her, then tell her. Or do you want to always wonder what could have been?
Why is it wrong? You can't help how you feel or who you feel it for.
...............................
A
female
reader, TheFallBackGurl +, writes (14 December 2010):
 well id like to start by stating i am a lesbian. i discovered i was a lesbian in the 7th grade but didnt act upon it untill i was a sophmore in high school. after that everything got crazy i told my mom and a few choice others in my family about me being lez when i was a junior in high school(im currently a junior in high school now lol) any ways i think u just need to decide which will hurt u more in the end whether its going on like this as just friends but u want more or if its telling her and dealing with the rejection or acceptance if u guys have as close of a bond as u think i believe she will tell u how she feels about it and u guys will move on together as friends or as more but u do need to remember that u r a minor and she isnt u might want to try waiting till ur closer to 18
...............................
|
