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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have been friends with a workmate now for about5 months- we see each other all the time at and outside of work. I found out a few months ago that she liked me from her friend but I was unsure if I liked her back in that way. I definitely have feelings for her but am unsure if they are sexual feelings. I definitely think she is an amazing girl but I am worried to ruin our friendship when I am not sure how I feel. I am also very shy and hesitant and not too confident and often get told I am too friendly with girls when I should be dating them instead and am told I miss out on opportunities without realising it (I have only had one girlfriend at 28 and other than that a couple of unfortunate drunken 'encounters').Anyway, I have had an injury and have not been at work for a month and as such she has been hanging out with my housemate (who we also work with)and I can tell that she is getting feelings for him. Her interactions are turning to him more and she is always at his side instead of spending the time with me now plus she gives him 'the look'.I guess it takes something like that to jolt you into action or at least out of indecision but maybe I have left it too late now.Firstly - should I give it a go with her (if it's not too late) risking losing her as a friend when the attraction is mainly based on a personality and not so much physically?Secondly - Is it too late now anyway? I am aware that if she has feelings and I have not made a move, especially when I have not been around as much, that her feelings may well have changed. Who am I to expect her not to have feelings for someone else instead. It's a shame it's my housemate as it's in front of me (I feel I'm losing her as a close friend too) but should I give up and be happy that they potentially (nothing has actually been verified) could get together? I think she is a great person and really am not sure what to do... Many thanks in advance for your time.
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reader, BondGirl72  +, writes (13 July 2012):
 It's never too late. Call her and ask her out. She could say "no", but you will never know until you ask. Make it a casual night out. You could say "Hi, I hadn't talked to you for awhile and wanted to know if you would like to grab lunch somewhere or something." Just be yourself and go with it. It doesn't matter how many dates, girlfriends, etc you've had or haven't had before. Women just want a genuine and honest person to be with.
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