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writes:k suppose i talk to this guy who i have a crush on..is it a bad thing?? do u think he will think that i am desperate..will it make it less challenging since i made the move and he wouldn make efforts further right?? he would be expecting me right???
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionput yourself in a position where he simply has to talk to u..k now how do that..thanks
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reader, Susan Strict  +, writes (29 April 2008):
 Talk, or keep him in your head as a fantasy. The choice is yours.
Think it through and think what you really want. If you think you have a chance for a relationship with him then go talk to him or, better, put yourself in a position where he simply has to talk to you. Then find a proper reason for telling him how nice he is - and you don't have to say it in a "I really want to go out with you" sort of way. Something as simple as "Did you really do that? I think you're nice". If he doesn't take the hint then you are probably wasting your time - but remember that men can be very slow and stupid sometimes, and particularly the ones that are really clever in other ways! Sometimes you have to be quite blatant about it or they really don't understand at all.
But... if you think that he probably won't be interested in you, then it's rather different. Consider whether just possibly you might want to keep the fantasy of a perfect relationship with him in your head. A rejection might spoil that. Sometimes, just sometimes, when reality most likely will never happen, an unblemished fantasy is so much better.
...which is probably why I never went and asked Patrick Swayze to marry me - just to keep him Dirty Dancing with me forever in my fantasies.
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