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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (30 April 2008):
 ALL MEN ARE CREATED EQUAL ….but not all little boys and girls!
If you give in too fast, then the chase is no more fun for the men.
It becomes a relationship for sex and nothing more.
If you come too easy , you will not be highly valued but in
the back of his mind , a cheap and slutty person , only for fun .
If you are looking for an emotional relationship ,
it will be difficult to take off.
Sex is the icing on the cake.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): It takes a while. My girlfriends didn't ask until a few month (3) into the relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell we both practically almost did have sex on the first date anyway. And, he has sent loads of dirty texts anyway. He wants it too. It is just if he doesn't take the lead which I think he probably will, I just feel a bit nervous about saying hey lets go. Stupid right.Thanks for all your supportive message. I know a lot of ppl on this site say guys are only after the one thing and you should hold out, but come on you can get hurt no matter what in a relationship. Look at all the ppl who cheat after being together for years.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): I had a girlfriend who acted a certain way: quite, but always extremely close. She also would place her hand on the inside part of my leg. Other times, she would have this look and would get close and whisper "I want it". I felt like I could have ripped a hole in my pants, what a turn on.
Sensitive guys, like myself, prefer that approach, her intent was clear. Coming out and being direct with "I want you to fuck me" maybe a turn off for sensitive guys.
Fut a sensitive guy feels special when his girl asks for it.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (29 April 2008):
 Yes, it is more than OK. It's welcome.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): I mean if you almost had sex on the first date anyway and he has called you up for the second date. I mean it is not going to spoil the friendship or anything as it has almost happened anyway.
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reader, Dr Vendetta  +, writes (29 April 2008):
 Phil. you're a whore. you totally would. lol
Back to the matter...
Girl : " I want to have sex with you "
Guy : " WTF?.. women don't say that.. women never want to have sex"
flattered? yes. however.. i'd say get to making out and things go naturally from there... if i remember correctly.. its been a while.
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reader, bemused  +, writes (29 April 2008):
 In keeping with the age you post here..in my opinion there is nothing wrong with it at all. Long gone is the double standard where it was not ok. Quite frankly I would think most guys would be over the moon provided they liked you and found you attractive. A word of caution. If the guy in question is someone who could be thinking 'long term' about I would hold off a little longer as you want there to be something of substance there. If sex is all you might want in this situation..and to be honest that could be the case then...ok. Be prepared though that you may not hear from the guy again and you might make yourself vulnerable here. Do the necessary and intelligent things regarding birth control and protection against STDs
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): Wouldn't mind in the slightest. It would give me an opportunity to tell her that I'm extremely flattered but it would spoil our friendship.
But seriously, no I wouldn't mind at all - especially if the same thing was on my mind.
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reader, crownedprincess +, writes (29 April 2008):
Hiya!!ive never asked a guy for sex becuase ive never needed tobut i think its wicked women have needs just as well as they do!! if you want to and think its right then go for it!!good luck x
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