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writes:ok so i am in a relationship with a guy for about 7 mnths now. he does not belong to a vey rich family. he also had problems with his studies but crossing all the barriers he cleared a medical exam seat to be a doctor. before we had met he told me he never had a gf but used to do sex with prostitutes just to fulfill his sex desire. after we met we had sex soon since we both were in moods. i very well know that my parents would never agree for marriage with this person but i really can see his eyes and his love for me in his eyes when im around we even talk on phone 1-2 hrs daily and remain in touch through sms. but since we guys dont have a room we are not able to have sex routinely like only 3 times till now. recently he has started adding unknown good looking and wanting sex kind of girls in his fb profile. he says it that he never wants to let me go and also have done a lot of things for me. but this fb thing is really pissing me off i dont know what to do about it. we are quite open with words and have never ever fought with each other i really dont know what to do.i even started working part time so that i can arrange some money for him and he can complete his degree. but what is in his mind. he takes money from me.talks about girls with me. he holds my hand in public looks me into my eyes and says i love you. he says he would work real hard to become a man and he also says that he would marry me. but i am not sure what does he want. on one side he says he loves me and on the other side he has added those girls in his profile.is it that he thinks that i would forgive him whatever he does. or should i talk to him about this.but how?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2012): well i did talk to him and he has removed that girl.. told me that he loves me and only me.. he said he will never let me be upset..
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (11 October 2012):
If this is someone you love then you should be able to talk to him about things that really bother you. Why do you keep silent about this problem? I think the longer you keep silent about ANY issue, the worse you will feel and you will even blow the issue out of proportion.
One thing I have noticed is that you may never marry him because of your parents. I think this is very important and it is something you should think about, since he can love you with all his heart, but he may never be able to marry you. You should always be careful of double standards.
On facebook, it is easy to become jealous. After all, facebook is a complete waste of time. Also I think it is normal for men to have friends who are girls...right? But what is it that he is doing wrong? These problems you write of seem like simple things you can over come together.
I think you fear losing him and maybe you are doing so much for him, you expect him to have you as the only woman in his life. Well..I am not sure but if you want a long lasting, healthy relationship with anyone, you need to understand that no one is perfect and everyone makes mistakes. If you want to last forever, you need to communicate with your partner your issues in a simple, honest and calm manner so that they may understand your view. Most of all, you must have forgiveness in your heart.
Speak with him and maybe you can understand his mind more than before. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2012): Darling you need to open up you eyes. This computer age although helpful, is also relationship breaker.Net is a powerful tool for advertising, promoting your product, giving information, helping people but also a way of destroying a relationship.I agree with you, there's something fishy with that newly added girl on FB, this days that's how people met. Its easier to talk on net. Hooked up on net. get sex on net.Is this the kind of guy you really want to end up with?Let me point out to you his bad points: According 2 u..1.He had problems with his studies.2.Before you met he told you he never had a gf but used to do sex with prostitutes just to fulfill his sex desire. 3.You even started working part time so that you can arrange some money for him and he can complete his complete his degree. he takes money from you.talks about girls with you. (Seriously? I will never spend a single cent for a guy like this)4.You know very well, ur parents would never agree for marriage with this person. (And i understand why, i agree with them)There's no brownie points I can tell:i don't even consider him looking in your eyes in public and saying he loves you a brownie points, Its acting...I know a guy that will sing songs for me and will cry out loud just to put my mind at ease but that means nothing..a guy is only sincere to a girl if his doing an extra effort to put our mind at ease. That would be a brownie points.If he knows it bothers you, he should stop and delete that person on his fb account. Remember, it takes more than a kiss, butterflies and promises to know and find out if a person is sincere to you..Words must be put into action. Never settle for less..You know what you should do... Good luck..
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