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writes:I'm seeing a guy who I met at the jive club I go to, he broke up with his ex-girlfriend of 6 years about 8 months ago and she's annoyingly self confident. I'm not. I'm a virgin and have little to no experience with guys. I'm concerned that if our relationship progresses any further that he wont like me or whatever.I mean, he's a lovely guy, say's he's falling for me (squee!) and doesn't have a bad bone in him. I just have very strong views on sex and I'm worried what he'll think... which is silly because it's him!Basically, should I talk to him about my sex life (or lack thereof) and about my views on my virginity?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJeff, Thanks for the advice! I spoke to him and he understands. Though we may not be completely innocent in the relationship, when it comes to having sex he understands that I want to wait.
I also spoke to him about his ex and I'm very confident that we wont split or be affected by her too much.
Thank you so much, I feel less silly!
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reader, Abella  +, writes (2 January 2011):
 i do not think one's past experience or lack thereof should be discussed. Although i find it a grave breach of trust when girls have shared every last snippet and then have it thrown back in their face (as the 'reason' he is now breaking up with her)
However if the issue is whether to consumate the relationship or not - then it would be relevant to share your views on the issue.
And whatever those views are he should respect the views you hold
PS: he is with you, not the ex. So he prefers YOU to his ex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2011): I side with honest answer. Great advice! Good luck.
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (2 January 2011):
 Without a doubt, you should put all the cards on the table and let your BF know where you stand on sex. You owe it to yourself.
I have a good feeling if he is as good person as you say he is, this shoud be a mute point in the relationship.
Good Luck!
Jeff
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