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writes:I need help. I've been seeing this man for 5 mths now and everything is great when we are together. He says he doesnt want a girlfriend, but it seems as if i am. He wants to take things slow and not get too serious. He calls us friends lovers and companions. He says he doesnt want to date anyone else. It's like we are a couple but not officially. So i'm confused. Does all this sound reasonable? He calls several times a day and i see him once a week. Should I get out before I get hurt or keep dating him a little longer and see where it goes. I think I'm getting attached and I dont want to be STUPID. thank you for your help. Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (4 February 2009):
Well he's basically in a relationship but is refusing to call him that.
My advice is to force him to make his mind up.
Tell him that you feelings have grown too strong and that you can't continue to see him just as a companion etc. You want him to be a boyfriend but you know that is not what he wants to be so you are going to take a bit of time away from him.
The cut contact, no phone calls no texts, ESPECIALLY no meeting up. If he contacts you then tell him to please not as you want to try and get over him so you can go back to being his friend. Tell him you only want to hear from him again if he wants to give things a go and be a proper couple.
After a week of missing you, he'll be back and willing to stop messing you around.
Good Luck!! xx
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