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writes:My husband decided one day he just didnt want to be with me anymore.....this was back in October of 2009. He accused me of having an affair and being a horrible wife when in fact he was just trying to justify his actions. Now he wants me back.But I have been casually seeing someone who has fallen in love with me. He is my ideal guy. He is my dream come true and willing to offer me the world. While I love him very much- I am not in love with him. He knows this and I feel so guilty even considering taking my husband back. Of course this guy is very aware of my situation. I have been honest from the beginning. He has been there for me through the ups and downs. He has seen my emotional rollercoaster and the basket case that I have become. Yet he still wants to be with me.I told him that I was vulnerable and didnt want to fall into "hero syndrome". We agreed to be friends. The fact is- he has been in love with me since we were 14 years of age. So he believes finding his way back to me is because we are meant to be. We are soulmates.I am just so confused. I am torn between what I am expected to do- that is as a Christian woman- forgive my husband and play happy family or attempt to go with this new guy- the taboo.So what do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2010): Don't go by the "Christian woman" thing. Do what is best for YOU. In my opinion, you should go with the new guy. If my husband just up and decided to leave me, I'd never want him back again no matter how much he begged and pleaded, because that is not love. That is a spoiled brat who doesn't know the first thing about love, or what he wants in life. Especially at your age.
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reader, MinnieM  +, writes (10 September 2010):
My husband decided one day he just didnt want to be with me anymore.....?
Question answered, who could ever trust anyone who does that to them? Not me!
No matter what you decide to do about your new relationship I wouldn't even consider being with your 'soon to be ex husband' again.
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