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writes:I was with my girlfriend for 7 and a half years and we broke up for three months we were really getting to each other and we both parted ways. I still seen her about once every few weeks for the next three months. She never told me she was seeing two guys at once and messed with a guy one time on vacation. All in three months! Well we got back together and things have been going good for five months now, I found out she is chatting on my space with some guy. I looked into it further and she is in love with him. She was telling him she loved him a month and a half after we moved out. I confronted her about it and she denied it for two days. I kept asking her all night "which one of these guys do you love" cause I wanted her to tell me. She never did. The next day I get a text that she sent to her friends and to me by accident. It said " he is waiting for me to admit that I love (his name)" I could not believe it. I know we were broken up at the time she fell in love but to get back with me for 5 months and she is still talking to him on my space. I found out this guy has a girl and when we were broken up she was asking him to leave his girl. I know there are not seeing each other still but she is still saying I love you after her messages. She is saying to me that this guy gets on her nerves and she doesn't even like him anymore. She says she will do anything to make this up. But she still won't admit anything like when it started and when it ended. I just don't know if I can go back. I told her I usually wait 2-3 months after a long relationship before I get into another one. Should I take her back??
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reader, Royofthe Rovers  +, writes (3 May 2007):
 I understand if you love someone that much it is hard to let go, no matter what they do. Just be careful and if its going to work; do everything to make it work.
I wish you all the best mate..
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe said this was just a fling and she left him when I came back to her.I am giving her a second chance. I love her so much. I am just setting my rules and we will see what happens. She is a perfect girl and I dont want to lose her. If she does this again it will be over for good.
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reader, Royofthe Rovers +, writes (1 May 2007):
Trust is a fragile thing no doubt. I am finding it hard at the moment to do the same. It will take time and patience. All the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for writing. I mean I know I will find the right person I just dont know if I can trust anyone again. I am letting her know its over in the morning. I just am too strong to let this girl play me like this. She thinks now I am taking her back but not after tomorrow. I just hope it goes smooth. I am just glad this happen before kids and marrige. Thats one thing to be happy about through all this. Thanks again
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reader, Royofthe Rovers +, writes (30 April 2007):
I dont think you should. It sounds like your trust in her has already been taken for granted by her. She has has gone behind your back twice!! Whats stopping her doing this again??
She needs to be clear where you stand and what you have gone through. She cant expect you to keep taking this punishment and still hold the same respect and trust you held for her 7 years ago.
Ultimately this is your choice, but you need to think if you get married or engaged can you trust her again, the way you did when you first met? Are you always going to be second guessing her when she goes on holiday with her mates or goes out on lash?
I would be cautious at the very least, I know if you love someone it is hard to let go and even the most straight forward of choices seems the hardest one to make. Only you know her and know what she is capable of and whether she is able to change and work towards a better relationship.
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reader, Wildheart78 +, writes (30 April 2007):
Hi mate, I was in exactly the same situation as you, I was with my girl for 7 years and we had 2 children. We split up all the time and get back for a few months then it dawned on me she was just using me. If theres no passion there then give it up, I know 7 years is a long time to throw away but trust me she aint for you. People use the internet to meet other people especially chat rooms and social sites, again my ex partner done this and when she passed her driving test that gave her ultimate freedom to secretly see who she wanted when she wanted. I have moved on and have now met great new friends and have found the girl of my dreams of whom im working on now.
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