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writes:What does it mean honestly? I am 28 and came out of a 6 month relationship a month ago. Met a girl who is 21 and came out of a 5 year relationship 2 month ago. We got on as friends for a while, last monday we actually hooked up at the pub and came back to my place and had sex. She went back home the next day sayin it was just fun. Thursday night she called me to pick her up cause she wanted to see me and sleepover again. On the Friday we had our first proper date and she stayed with me till Sunday and it went great. I am absolutely head over heels for this girl and want to go serious, but she doesnt, shes not ready for anything serious. So does fun as she calls it lead to something more serious, or is it just messing around until one of gets bored or meets someone. I don't know whether to work on it and hopefully get a good end result or just go back to being friends and find someone who does want to go serious. Reply to this Question
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reader, Royofthe Rovers +, writes (30 April 2007):
 Since it has been 5 months i would let her know yuor intentions and feelings towards her.
What happens if this goes on for a year, and then you find out nothing has changed, wont you feel used? What if she turns around and says she has found someone new to have "fun" with, how will you feel then?
5 months is long enough to have fun, and if you want more than just "fun", you need to let her know your true feelings.
If she still does'nt want to take things further you know where you stand then and you can decide where to take it from there.
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reader, Wildheart78 +, writes (30 April 2007):
Wildheart78 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have known the girl for about 5 months, she always gave me the come on when we were seeing other people as well. Its just that she doesnt want a relationship and just fun, where as i really do like her and wanna give it a go.
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reader, deejuliet  +, writes (30 April 2007):
 Relax. You have been dating this girl for only a week and have known her for not much longer than that. You should not be trying to make it all serious yet. Just enjoy each others company, have fun, get to know each other. If you really get on well, it will lead to something more serious. Wait a month or 2 at least before you decide to stay or go.
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