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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:my ex recently ask me to break up,because she needs time to deal with some legal issues and also she wants to figure out what to do with her life but she wants us to remain friends and for me to continue with my life.she is in the process of divorcing her ex.now that she is almost done with it, she made this decision and kind of push me out the way instead of dealing with the issue together(at least that's the way i feel).We were together for 7 months, she lookes very happy and loved but at the break up she confesed she wasnt really looking for a relationship, I really gave her the attention and dedication she deserved,I really made her feel like a woman.She said I am wonderfull, that i am the best guy she ever been with. her whole family loves and they want us to be together.she says she loves me but cant be with somebody right now.she says she knows she is been an idiot because she is letting a great guy go, and hopefully we will be together in the future. If she wants to comeback some day,how would this work.do we have to start dating again like complete strangers, should I tell her i will not be the same guy that she met.this really changed me.how can i really trust her again?she had a problem and instead of reying on my she dumped me.Should I forgive her and give her another chance or find another woman who will stick to me no matter what!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2009): Like I said previously, I think you need some space, and evidently so does she. You'll both know whether there's any future in it after allowing yourselves some time to sit back and think about things, and if it's meant to be, it's meant to be. Don't pester her, let her make up her own mind about things without any pressure from you.
If she wants to come back, why not allow her to do so? Is that not what you want to happen?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know that the ball is in her court if she wants to comeback but if she does should i take her back? I really love her and I know she feels something for me but i just dont know how to handle it
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2009): I think you need some time on your own for a while. Give it a month, do 'man things' for that period of time and give yourself a break from women and all their complications. After that you'll have a whole fresh outlook on life.
As for forgiving her and giving her another chance - I don't really think the ball is in your court on that one - that's rather up to her don't you think?
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