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anonymous
writes:My girlfriend broke up with me because she wanted to do stuff with other people without having to answer to me and that she doesn't want the title of "girlfriend".And we've been dating for 6 months and I saw a message on her facebook to her girlfriends saying that she was just with me out of pity and that we weren't in a relationship.Another message was that i am too nice and she's more in to bad boys.After the break up she said that if she made a mistake she'll just come back to me.So should i take her back?
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (13 February 2015):
 No! I know hat hurt. i was dumped way back whe I know the desperation you feel but she's a loser that enjoys causing pain to others and she'll just do it again and again It's a sadistic behaviour that she'll never outgrow. Stay as far away as you can and get off FB! Get it togetether man. Start over with someone that has feelings. She doesn't feel. Ask yourself, "Would someone who was a caring loving girl cause you that kind of pain? She's trash, flush her memories and FB down the crapper. You are better than that. You deserve better than that. Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2015): I wouldn't go back out with her if she wanted to go out she would not have broke up with you
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2015): No you shouldn't take her back. She was mocking you and insulting you when she posted on Facebook for everyone to read, that she was with you out of pity. She was making a fool of you, young man!
She likes bad-boys? That's what girls like her deserve. Rotten boys who will treat her badly until she wises-up.
I know you really like her and want to be with her. You have to learn that it isn't good for you to want to be with someone so badly that it doesn't matter how they treat you. They have to care as much about you as you care for them, and really mean it. It's being desperate when you allow girls/people to mistreat you; and say insulting things to other people to make them disrespect you. She wants you back only because the last "bad-boy" dumped her after using her. Or, she had sex with someone; only to find out they didn't want to be with her. Now she needs a "fool" like you to build her back up.
Be a man, not a puppy or a doormat. Girls like that have fun breaking your heart. At least she admitted you're a nice guy.
Find somebody else!!! That's when they really want you back! But you never take them back, because they don't deserve you!
You don't want her pity, you want her love and respect. If you don't take her back, you will prove to her that you are a man. Not a fool! Once other girls see that maturity in you; they'll want you, and she'll be very jealous. She has to learn that it is wrong to treat nice-guys badly.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (13 February 2015):
 No, NO, no!
She isn't a very nice person. Why date someone WHO really doesn't WANT to be with you? And who you KNOW is with you for all the wrong reasons. Like pity and boredom.
Remove her from your FB and yourself from hers, CUT the contact, delete her number.
Chalk that 6 months up to a learning experience, to the fact that you REALLY didn't know her that well. And to the fact that YOU should NEVER keep negative people (like her) around in your life, they "give" nothing - they just "take" and "use" people.
Her loss.
She wants "bad boys" ? LET her have them, they will walk all over her "bad self".
Find a GIRL who likes YOU for you. Wants to BE with you because you are a decent guy. Who doesn't TALK smack about you to her friends to make herself look better.
This one... tell her to go kick rocks - then block her dumb butt.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (13 February 2015):
 No.
She broke up with you so could explore sexually with others and she made a public statement about being with you out of pity.
Don't be enemies but don't take her back. Not even as friends. You don't still have her on Facebook, do you?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (13 February 2015):
 Heck no- do you even really need to ask ?!
If you know for sure that she was / is / will be with you only to have someone to fall back on, and to have companionship / attention while she is looking around for someone better , what's in it for you, other than humiliation and the knowledge of being used as her plan B ?
Look, not to twist the knife into your wound, but basically your ex is announcing to all and sundry that she does not like you and she does not respect you, you just will be convenient in a pinch. Of course you can say: "I don't care , as for me I like HER and I'll be content with her just ...letting herself be loved while I am the one doing all the loving ".
Very noble and unselfish in theory, in practice you won't have much time to enjoy your unselfishness, - only till the next " bad boy " shows up on her radar. Which could happen any minute.
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