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male
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36-40,
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writes:My girlfriend dumped me 18 months back saying I am loser and I will always do stupid jobs and won't find good one. I was begging and crying in front of her like a baby that please don't leave but she did. I used to tell her that I was trying getting a good job but it was something beyond my reach since I had no contact to get myself in good company here. For next two months, after our breakup, I kept trying reaching her but she remained unmoved and finally I had to give , stopped contacting her but only I know what I went through in those 18 months . Now for the last two weeks, she's been smsing me saying she wants being back in my life. I know that during last 18 months , she remained single . Three nights back, I replied her , telling her that I am ready to take her back but with one condition that she will have to edit my 150 English shorts stories in just one month and also has to clean my apartment twice a day everyday for next one month. If she could get this done, she will be out. Yesterday was her first day here, she edited 6 of my short stories and also got the apartment cleaned twice. But I found her extremely tired and weak which melted my heart. While she was fast asleep, I kissed her on head and felt guilty for being little harsh with her. Now there is a civil war in my body, my heart wants to take her back without any condition but mind says that I should take revenge on her for mental torture she inflected on me during those 18 months by dumping me for such a small reason. The question I am putting to you people is that what I should do now? Should take her back without any condition or whatever I am doing right now the correct way of solving things? Thanking you all in anticipation !
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reader, Madalo 1  +, writes (7 July 2011):
She dumped you because you didnt have a good job and even called you a loser!
18months later she comes running back to you. Do you now have a good job?
Its a very noble thing to forgive. However, you have to take this into consideration: what made her leave in the first place, and why is she back? Couldn't she do the same thing again? What will you do if she bails again, insulting you in the process?
You've given her conditions but i dont know if it's necessary; what matters is that you've taken her back. You need to use your head in the matter and not your emotions.
Wishing you all the best.
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