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writes:I've been dating a guy for over a month and I really like him, I believe he reciprocates and feel very with him. The other day I was talking over the phone with him and something funny happend. We're Spanish, and there is a smaller level of saying I love you, which is Te Quiero, and I've been feeling to say that to him lately, but I want him to say it first. Anyways, as we were saying goodbye over the phone, in a very quiet and tiresome voice, I said, "te cuidas mucho" which is take care. But he answered: me too! Which would be normal if I said "Te quiero mucho" but I said take care, so my inmediate reaction and thought was: he thought I said te quiero and he reciprocated and I asked him: what did you say? And he was like: What? Nothing...And I felt as if he got nervous, so I felt as if it was a good sign. My friends say it's good too, but they're below 20, like me, and both my parents which are almost 50 said that it's not a good sign, that it means he wasn't paying attention and that it's almost like as if he had called me by an ex's name of his. So what do you think? Bad or good sign? Because if it's good, I would really like to say "Te Quiero", but if it's bad, I can have a warning about where he's going...
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (10 May 2012):
You really can’t tell from this conversation what he thought you said. It’s possible that he misheard you, however the difference in pronunciation is quite clear. If, for some reason, you’d said “te quieres” then he might have misunderstood, but even as some-one who knows Spanish but isn’t a native speaker I’d easily pick up the difference between “te quiero” and “te cuidas.” He might have said “me too” not because he misheard you but because he was tired.What interests me is why you expect him to say “I love you” first. Maybe he thinks that this would be moving too fast and that it will put you off. Maybe he’s waiting for you to say it. Relationships are all about being honest with each other. If you love him then he needs to know how you feel, at least you will then know what his response would be, whether it’s what you wanted to hear or not. Be brave, take the plunge and say “te quiero.”I wish you all the very best.
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reader, Starlights +, writes (10 May 2012):
 Its hard to say to be honest!
His intentions are not clear by that telephone call.
Dont say anything like *te quiero* until he makes himself more clear.
goodluck!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (10 May 2012):
 I don't think it's bad or good... I hate talking on the phone it's always hard to hear for me (especially with cell phones) and things get mis-interpreted.
IF YOU FEEL it then tell him... but do it in person face to face... better to see his reaction....
it's not mandatory for the male to say it first.
I told my fiance first that I loved him...
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