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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I don't know what to do! I ran into a old friend from highschool whom I haven't seen in 14 years, whom I always was secretly seriously attracted to. We chatted away that night and realized that we each went through pretty rough divorces in the past 2 years. He asked me out that night and a week later we went out to dinner, we connected and had a wonderful time. I feel so comfortable with him. Problem-we slept together, and twice since, once after a get together at his house with a ton of our old friends.We feel equally comfortable and connected in bed. I want to take a risk and try to see if it could be something,he is so much of what I always wanted, but we talked a bit last week and he says his head is still a mess and doesn't want to hurt me. What do I do? Walk away for fear(bc I'm very afraid), or play it low key? I want to take a risk, but we are both afraid! Are we doomed? How do I continue on from here?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (18 January 2011):
 He didn't want to hurt you, but it's ok to sleep with you and give you false hope?
Well sex is what it is sex. It's clear a relationship isn't on this guy's mind, sounds like he's got way too many personal issues to work out first. So you've got some choices:
-Settling for less and going about a FWB with him. However, I don't suggest it since you have strong feelings for him. FWB doesn't equal a relationship.
-Keeping it as friends but waiting around till he gets his head sorted out. Which who knows how long that will take?
-Move on, because he doesn't want what you want.
I think you should opt for the third choice. You had fun, got your kicks, but it was some short lived fun. Time to move on from the past, he's not in your future.
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