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*aleighwood
writes:I am 40 Years old. My 15 Year Marriage was stable due to one son we share together. He cheated on me only after one year of marriage. 13 Years later I fell into a relationship with a single man. Deeply loved him and had future plans of spending the rest of my life with him. We shared great laughs together and not to mention great sex. My husband hasnt had sex with me in years so to get that attention It was great! My single man and I made future plans together on a weekly basis. But, he began seeing another woman. I gave up on everything for two months we did not see each other. He moved in with her and I moved on working more than ever. I am an accountant so It was easy. My single man and I even purchased a cruise we had it planned for a year. I went on my cruise without him. Now, he is wanting to establish his as he puts it "life back". I cant trust him but I love him. Actually to be honest I am in love with him. For the first time in my life I actually am in love. Am I stupid to even give our relationship another chance? Am I stupid for even having the realtionship? My brain tells me i am stupid as hell my heart bleeds when he tells me he loves me. I have never had someone in my life like this man. Do I walk away for ever??
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (18 January 2011):
 We'll get to your affair in a minute..
First and foremost before you go any further, divorce your husband. Get that completely out of the way, before he finds out you're committing adultery and you could get nothing.
You're not necessarily stupid, it's just not a grand idea to engage in an affair period. You were lacking something in your marriage, you found it in him. He was your secret, sexual rendezvous. Then, just 2 months later he moved on to another woman knowing you wouldn't leave your marriage for him. This guy moves fast, this other woman didn't last long and he's already wanting you back. I'd be really wary of this. I'm not saying it can't work. But very rarely do you hear of affairs staying together after a divorce and going on to live happily ever after.
The saying "Follow your heart." often leads us to heart break. I'd use your head on this woman, your a smart woman decide what is best for your well being in this situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2011): I am in a similar situation
was with my girlfriend for 13yrs, we had no kids as i have a low count but she had a son from her first marriage
she was always accusing m of cheating, bu i never did, i was just good fun and confident and not bad looking and well dressed(even if i say so myself)
then in 2008 we split, she left and i didn't know why but i got with a girl i used to go to school with, i never loved but sex was fantastic, the my ex and i got back to gether.
i kept seeng the new girl for a couple of months then told its over...about 10mnts later i slept with her again but i told my girlfriend..my girlfriend told me to pack my bags but wants to be friends so i did..we went out for six more months meals and drinks and hugs and kisses at the endo of the night we went back to our separate flats .. then this xmas she told me she has a new man and she wants to make a go of it, i'm gutted nd devestated but how can i win her back, shes no answering my calls and its all come as a bit of a shock as i thought we were getting on ...what should i do..
plus to answer to the previous question is if you love the single man then you must go with him, your husband is not interested !!
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