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writes:I broke up with my boyfriend 2 weeks ago, It was not a nice relationship at all . We have been together for 2 years, he cheated on me twice, he stole money from me, he used my bank card several times without telling me, and the list goes on and on, we used to fight every week, there was nothing good about this relationship, only my love to him which gone away. Throughout the relationship I was so nice to him, I offered him a lot and I upgraded his lifestyle Although, It was my decision to end this relationship, still hurts me, I am not sad because his gone but so disappointed and angry from him for what his doing to me right now and I cannot help it.During our relationship, me and my ex opened a small café, it was a joint venture agreement done by a law firm, 51/49 shares, although my contribution to the business was 75% but we made it 50/50 we sold the café one month ago at a very low price because it was a very bad business. The money of the sale was transferred to my ex bank account, but he didn’t pay me my full share and I still owe him around 1000 Euro . Now I am so broke and I just started a new job at a bad salary and struggling to make it.When we broke up I was so angry from him and I just wanted to leave, so I took half of my stuff and I told him I will come back later to take the rest of my things and my money, he said OK.I took also my dog which I feel that my ex wanted to have so bad as he loves her.The problem, is we have a company under our names, I wanted to close it but I was told by the commercial registry that your business partner *my ex, needs to attend but he refused, I kept asking but he blocked me from calling/messaging him, I cannot find him and he changed his address and it seems that his friends blocked me too. I kissed his feet to come, I told him I do not need the money just I need to sign but he refused.I challenged him by saying I will go to the court, but he seems that he doesn’t care.I really don’t want courts, I don’t need more problems in my life. I just need to get things done but its hopeless So I am now In a trouble , as I need to close the company, pay all the fees and taxes and move on but I cannot find my ex, and I also need to close the telephone and internet company contract and he needs to come and pay and sign, otherwise, I will be forced to pay high amount of money for breaching the contract. I am so broke, I cannot even hire a lawyer to help me, and lawyers are so expensive. I am not sure what to do? Why he is so mean to me, I offered him a lot and I was always supporting him, what he gains from doing that ! How can I find my ex? What should I do?
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (16 April 2018):
 I am not familiar with the law in Portugal but I am pretty sure you are not the first (or last) person this has happened to and that there must be a way round this. Unscrupulous ex partners (business or otherwise) "disappear" all the time so there must be ways of dealing with this in law. In the UK we have the Citizens' Advise Bureau which can help with free advice and guidance. Do you have something similar in Portugal?
Or perhaps you can take out one loan, clear all the debts your ex left you with, and just pay that off over a length of time? Not ideal I know, but sometimes we have to deal with the mess someone else leaves behind.
Your ex is obviously upset that he cannot use and abuse your kindness any longer, so is making life as difficult as he can for you. I would suggest, for the good of your mental health if nothing else, you try to just let it all go and deal with the mess (if that is possible).
Sending hugs. Not a nice situation and not fair in any way, shape or form. Sadly there will always be users who will abuse the goodness of others.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (16 April 2018):
 I agree with Honeypie, seek legal advice, some lawyers will work without cash up front. There must also be business advisory bodies in your country, contact them and ask what they can do to help.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2018): I wish I can help you with an answer. But I dont know in which country you are..
You must go after the people that you know knows him. Try to go to friend's houses, family, coworkers..etc etc etc.
When you find out where to reach him go to talk to him but do not go alone. You can even make it up with one male friend, you go with your "lawyer" (which is a friend) and scare him, talk about the fees and all that you know already.
I know maybe you can't afford a lawyer but you can not leave this guy walk over you! Listen, you can collect as much money as you want of this dumbass man, you must talk to friends.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (15 April 2018):
 Go see a lawyer, see if you actually have a case.
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