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writes:Hi,My wife received an email from an old boyfriend, she told me at that time and we agreed to that, she will reply and tell him that, my husband don't like us to exchange emails and for that this is my last email to you.The problem is my wife was emailing him few times using another email address behind my back. She finally confess and said was only to find out how we was doing and she don't have any feelings for him. Do I still trust my wife?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2008): I think you have a real issue trusting your wife here. On the one hand, she was up front with the first e-mail. And that wasn't her fault at all since he contacted her. You and her response to him was exactly the right thing to do.
However, then her using a 'secret' e-mail (and anyone married does NOT have a right to have an e-mail account that their spouse doesn't know about). And continuing to contact him is VERY VERY wrong. I'm not saying they are going to hook up again or anything, but her secretive and deceptive behavior would make me very concerned. Can you get into and read her e-mails? Maybe they are innocent and he is the one pushing to contact her, then her only fault is keeping it from you. That you can get over. If she is talking dirty with him then you have a real big problem, and I'd say you can never trust her, so dump her and move on.
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (25 January 2008):
 HiTricky one. Yes and no. Possibly it is only to see how everyone is getting on. Thats fair enough. Or possibly she isn't too happy at the mo and is looking for a bit of excitement. Him emailing is out of her control and the fact she was upfront about hearing from him was good. The secretive emailing isnt on, and no one can blame you for being a tad miffed about that!Serious chat time needs to happen. Whats his set up nowdays? Is he settled with someone? Kids etc? Happy? I guess all that is relevant as to any risk between your wife and him. Emailing and keeping in touch through a secret email address is deceptive and snakey at the least.As to wheather you should trust your wife...only you can answer that and it would be hard for anyone to answer when we dont know the full sp.Good luck.C xxxxx
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