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writes:I have met this guy who is in his early 40s in a dinner arranged by a friend. As we are both single, we were asked to sit together. The guy has showed his interest throughout the night. It ended with him telling me that he hopes to invite me over coffee or lunch.I would admit that I was the one who initiated the succeeding meetings that we had together. I might have been the first one to do the moves but I would say that he had given his best whenever we were together. In fact, I was the one who was even cold whenever we were together.When the time came that he had to leave the country, he asked me to sleep with him as his farewell gift. I replied yes and did not expect him to be taking it seriously. And one day when we had the chance to be together again, he surprised me by reserving a room in a hotel. The night had passed without anything happening to both of us as I was not yet ready. And my decision was so strong that I did not agree to give up my virginity as he did not know as to what was the status of our relationship. But he was such a perfect gentleman to respect my decision. I did not see any anger in him. The next day when I texted him, he was still ok but might have been turned off when I told him off that he should have proceeded to a girly bar that night. (I was so tactless to say that.)Despite that, he agreed to still see me before he left but I could sense that he was already cold. I never got to hear from him anymore after he left until he replied and agreed to see me at the time that I visited his country. Again, I was cold during the meeting as I never got any reply from my emails to him. (I think that that is just a normal reaction.) I never got the chance to ask him about "us" that day. I tried offering myself to him the next day but I never receive any reply from him. I continued to email him. At certain times, he would reply until I asked him if I should still hold on or should I still hang on? He was quick to email me to move on as he does not see the future with me.It hurts so badly but neither can I forget nor be mad at him. My gutfeel tells me that he is the one.... my soulmate as he reminded me so much of my dad. The basis of my instincts were how he had treated me so well during our dates. Could it be that distance make it easy for him to say that? His place is 3-hours plane ride from my place.With this instinct and gutfeel and with what he told me, should I still continue to hope? Should I cease befriending him with the hope that there could still be a second chance for both of us?
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reader, fallenangel95  +, writes (24 September 2010):
....well I think you should move on. I think he was just using you. I'm sorry. But I think you should talk to him about it and ask him. Its time he starts acting like a man. He needs to either say "move on" or "lets get back togther." You need someone who's going to respect you for your choices and if he doesn't move on. Good luck!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (24 September 2010):
 I dont think you should wait for him, he made himself perfectly clear, i think you should go out and meet someone else. Maybe you fell for this guy two quick?? three dates isnt enough for you to realise that he is your soulmate and you may scare him away if you continue the way you are, dont contact him again until he contacts you and take it from there. Good Luck.
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