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writes:Girlfriend said she wanted to break up then changed her mind. For roughly two weeks we were talking daily and taking it slow. She even said things were good between us. Then she wanted to visit me last weekend and didn't show up last minute.After that, I then went no contact with her (5 days) and then sent her a short email yesterday telling her that I needed to know whether or not we were broken up or what before I move on without ever contacting her again (I am serious about never contacting her at this point).She called me up 15 minutes after I sent the email to talk. I was running out the door and didn't really want to talk at that time. I said hey, we spoke a little about her new job and dog, and then I said I had to go and that we could talk this weekend about things and she said great. She wouldn't let me off the line and kept asking me why I didn't want to talk etc. Then she said she will be home all weekend and asked if I would come visit her (Friday) and stay the night. I was noncommittal and she told me to call her today about the weekend.I do not know what to do at this point as this girl has given me a lot of mixed signals. I think the 5 days of no contact helped but now I don't know if visiting her is really the right thing to do or if I should just call on the phone Saturday and tell her I want to know what are status is period.Im pretty confused but ready to never talk to her again if need be because I can't keep getting jerked around.What the heck should I do????? Thanks much.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (27 September 2010):
 Sounds like jelousy and she sounds like she is really playing with your head. I think you should cut your ties.
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reader, Joe31 +, writes (27 September 2010):
Joe31 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe called me today while I was at a ballgame. She asked who I was with and I told her my friend (female older).
I said thank you for the call but I can't talk and asked if I could call her after the game. She sounded a bit pissed and said fine.
When I called a few hours later she didn't return the call.
What the heck is going on????
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (26 September 2010):
Just give her some time and dont blame yourself. She may just need some time to sort her head out. There is not a lot more you can do about it, things will get better in time.
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reader, Joe31 +, writes (26 September 2010):
Joe31 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, I really screwed up.... I sent her a couple short emails and when we spoke on Friday night she was tired and in a bad mood. I immediately asked where we stood and she said that she thought it was over between us because of a text I sent last Saturday whereby I texted "bye bye sarah." She told me she started telling people she was "single" at her new job and it was weird for her. She also said that she did not ever not want to speak to me again but if that is what I want, she can deal with it. She then said she saw me in her future but just not now......ugh. I started talking about how it could work, etc and she said I need to deal with this as she has been there. She doesn't like talking to me because I make her feel bad whenever she gets an email or talks to me. She told me I should maybe start seeing other people to help me.I told her I wont contact her again unless she contacts me first. She wanted to make sure this was the rule and then she said goodbye. The conversation was an hour long.I feel pretty terrible as this seems to be the realization that she is over me for good. I was pathetic on the phone and really did not want to act like that since things were good the weeks prior to us just talking here and there. I really screwed up.I don't think she will ever call me again and I totally pushed her away.Does anyone have any experience or advice? Is this it?
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (25 September 2010):
Well she's not worth it if she is playing with your emotions, go out and find a women that deserves you, best of luck.
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reader, Joe31 +, writes (25 September 2010):
Joe31 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey. I do want to get back with her....but she never responded to my email this morning asking for her cell number. I guess it will end without me ever knowing.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (24 September 2010):
It sounds like your not to pushed about never talking to your girlfriend to me, there is no will in you to fight for her so it's probably best if you ring her before friday and tell her that you want to finish it and move on. Good luck.
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